Why is it that we can take so long to truly "get it." We hear things and we learn things along the way, but for some inexplicable reason, the advice/information doesn't seem to really land until we get "it" on some very deep, personal and emotional level. It's kinda like that principle "when the student is ready, the teacher will appear." We seem to need a lot of experience and a series of personal tragedies for our heart and head to both understand certain things. For example, if you've ever made the mistake of falling for and becoming involved with an unavailable person (particularly a married person!) you'll know that some of that sage advice out there is well meaning and there for a reason! In most cases, it's a waste of our time, energy, heart and emotion. No disrespect to those of us who are confused and uncertain in our current relationships, because we've probably all been one of those people. There's nothing easy about ending a long term commitment and avoiding hurting someone.... but it sucks even more to be the sideline interest and object of someone's due diligence in their decision to stay or go. All I'm saying is, we really seem to need to learn the hard way. Boo! But there you have it, another one of those things in the journey called life. If you're like me, you want to know why. My brain seems to need to understand something before I can calm down and make sound moves. When I look back on my life, especially regarding relationships, I see a lot of trial and error/spinning of the wheels. Not a whole lot of fun frankly. So now what? Well, I guess it comes down to getting to know people well before jumping in with two left feet, Lol;) ... and more importantly, getting to know ourselves well enough to make a choice we can truly live with. No settling. No talking ourselves into something for all the wrong reasons. Choosing from the heart and soul - whatever it is we're choosing. Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatigirl
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