Rejection...

Is it just me, or is it challenging to handle a kiss-off or break up without feeling rejected (and maybe a tad humiliated)? We've all experienced both sides of the "no" when it comes to dating and relationships. We've all been dumped and we've all had to duck out of a dating or relationship situation. Neither side is fun actually. Things either line up or they don't. Logically speaking, it's all good. But something seems to happen when we don't get to make the call. We tend to feel rejected and not good enough in some way - or we feel dismissed or discarded. It's silly because I bet deep down we probably knew things weren't lining up - or maybe we hadn't realized it yet - but I'm sure in time we would have realized the match just wasn't there. So, what the heck? It almost feels like an involuntary response. You just hope the minor embarrassment passes quickly and fun times are right around the corner! At the end of the day, romance is a crap shoot, isn't it? The odds of anything lining up are pretty slim, so I guess we should understand that part of it was always going to be a numbers game, or a twist of fate or what have you. No one gets to choose who they fall for. It's either "there" or it isn't. I guess the rejection/feeling discarded thing is ego, or remnants of childhood "training" that left us feeling judged and scolded for parts of our character and behaviour. I think we need find a way to be our own biggest fan - and then who cares, right? ;) Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl