Getting over a break up...

If you haven't followed this blog and/or you haven't observed a thread of emotional back story, let me declare here and now that this is a break up blog. When life (and someone you thought you had love with) deals you a debilitating body blow, you either curl up in a ball (check!), or you get busy taking stock of your life and your decision making to date (check, check!).

They say it takes half the length of a relationship to get over it. Ugh. This is not terribly inspiring or comforting wisdom. I mean, does anyone really wanna pick over their emotional garbage on such a relentless and persistent basis. But there it is... and indeed and annoyingly, I'm finding this to be the case, particularly with the added sting of a betrayal by someone who was thought to be a trusted friend and even family, if you will.

So, let's talk about "dealing" and coping. It would be a whole lot more fun to suppress, avoid, numb out, move on to new romance! But we know the shit's still sitting there, right? If we don't deal with it, we will simply carry it around everywhere with us and into the next relationship anyway. I don't think we have any choice but to stare down these painful experiences and try to learn something from them. At least we can work on preventing a part deux! Lol ;)

Gigi Engle, Elite Daily, has the following fantastic points to offer:
* While these experiences are anything but ideal, they are actually the main ingredients of all of our future, healthy relationships.
* There is no better way to learn what we want and deserve than to face exactly the opposite.
* Nothing can force us to our edge like a truly unhealthy relationship.
* We now know where we stand on some of the most important issues of our lives and we will not back down.
* We learn to trust our gut. In a bad relationship, our gut is constantly telling us something isn't right, and we choose to ignore it.
* Having control over our life is the most important thing in the world, and we need to take responsibility for that control.
* After we break free, we will really come to be thankful for our happiness and be willing to do anything to cultivate and nurture that happiness.

Sounds good! Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl