There is a lot of debate around the idea of "true love" or the "soul mate" relationship. A lot of us aren't even sure we've ever really been "in love". We know we've "loved" people, but we're not sure we've ever experienced true, true love and soul mate status in our relationships. We search, we date, we enter into relationships and then we navigate and "work on" these connections. We don't want to "settle", but maybe we're not clear on when we're doing that. How do we know when we've "arrived" and that we're finally with "the one"?
According to Matt Kahn (TrueDivineNature.com) we are generally in "Twin Flame" relationships and, in fact, all of our ex's are what he calls Twin Flames. These relationships are often co-dependent and fraught with tension and/or lacking in the level of respect and consideration we should be wanting for ourselves. Once we've had enough of this sort of dance and we're left broken yet again, so that the pieces simply won't be put together again, we may be ready for a true soul mate connection. Matt's descriptors of a soul mate relationship; begins with a deep and caring love of self and others (while drawing good boundaries and keeping a safe distance from toxic people), grace, maturity, balance, the natural and easy resolution of issues, both people nurturing of self, both people making time for self.
In summary, a string of "Twin Souls" may provide the path to the soul mate of our dreams, but we will not attract and be ready for this depth and beauty of connection until we love ourselves in the way that we wish to be loved. Period. Hmmmm... okay!
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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