Are we venting in a productive way or are we complaining to an unhealthy degree? I guess we have to be the judge (unless our friends and family are beginning to tune out, Lol;) ... may be a kind hint). When we're not getting what we want or someone's hurt us in some way, we're certainly gonna have something to say about it and we're gonna have feelings to contend with. I like to give myself a time limit for resisting what's going down, or for wishing things were different. It's just painful to sit in the muck of wishing something were going another way. It's a waste of time in the end. Life would be so much easier if we could find a way to accept what's happening up front and move on from there. But I guess we have to allow ourselves to feel what we're feeling first. A wise therapist tells me there's valuable information in our negative responses. Typically we need to do something about it too; say no to someone's behaviour/actions, draw better boundaries, leave a relationship, pursue and new job with a different manager? Big changes don't come cheap or easy though. For that matter, even drawing small boundaries can be hard as well because we have to expose ourselves to the negative reactions of others. This all takes emotional courage and honesty, which we may have to cultivate overtime, if we so choose. I'm pretty sure good things come to those who work at though! Just sayin';) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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