For those who meet, fall in love and find their happily ever after - especially the high-school sweethearts, childhood sweethearts - such stability and security ... and possibly envy from the rest of us;) So many of us pick from the box of chocolates, sampling, contemplating, wanting more, or souring... and this can really go on. When it's fun, it's great and when it's not, the whole thing tires, does it not? For sure, but maybe if we attempt a paradigm shift, we can muster a few more chocolates, no matter how sweet or gross, Lol.
It's hard to look back on some of the crap romances without regret. It's so easy in hindsight to feel guilty or angry, thinking someone wasted our time, or we wasted their time. We can see clearly how wrong each situation was and we have a tendency to beat ourselves up, feeling that we're failing or making bad decisions. Relationship experts say, however, that whether we spend one night, one week, a year, a lifetime, each interaction is valuable in some way. We may not see it right away, but if we're willing to consider that each person brought something meaningful, however small, into our awareness and into our lives, then we've come out ahead. The idea is to move toward better and better compatibility, having discovered over time what makes us feel good. If we can be ourselves with someone, that's a hell of a start. (For further exploration on healing past relationships, check out You Can Heal Your Heart, but Louise Hay and David Kessler... some very comforting ways of thinking about the past).
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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