We are raised with stories of princes and princesses, with the happily ever as our goal. Hollywood love stories and romance novels continue to sell out at a rapid pace, as we search for some connection to this promise. Most people, however, are not and never have lived this sort of romantic tale. People disappoint us and somehow we are left feeling badly about ourselves for our failed relationships and/or marriages. We suffer the post mortem and the seemingly necessary and involuntary purgatory of the dry spell afterword and rack our brains for answers. Should we take a moment to think before plunging into the next ex-relationship or ex-marriage? There's a reason one commonly hears "hey, do you wanna be my next ex-wife" as a punchline in the single scene. So perhaps we actually have some awareness that there's trouble in paradise and that we may want to question the "you complete me" notion. Talk about a buzz kill;) We all want that hot passionate romance I'm sure and the traditional love story sounds so appealing. Why are we questioning this and it's a drag to think of denying that honeymoon feeling. Well, let's not get depressed just yet - let's just think of how we can approach things differently so that we end up with the best possible happily ever after that we can;) Some very wise people want to tell us that we just need to "complete" ourselves first - that's the "plug and the socket" theory.
So what the heck is the plug and the socket all about? ... sounds dull and boring, like a hardware store, Lol;). Even my eyes are glazing over. But hang in there for a second with me. Apparently, if we look inward at ourselves with a little more commitment, we should be able to attract someone far, far better for us. The compatibility factor will rise substantially and the potential for drama and trauma will go down considerably. Supposedly, if we're not "conscious" in choosing romantic partners, we are probably looking to "plug in" to someone else (i.e. filling some kind of void), instead of "plugging" into ourselves and what we really need and want, deep down. If we approach romance in the way we review our finances, or set up a fitness regime or learn a new skill, the due diligence process should net better results. Again, this all sounds as dull as an excel spreadsheet... but what if we really do end up happier and more fulfilled by trying this on for size? Maybe it's worth it! What have we got to lose?.... maybe we'll lose less on the other end. If our new relationship works long term, then we won't be stuck deciding who gets the Apple TV or worse, how much we'll need to pay the ex in alimony. Just sayin';)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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