The never ending question of love... what is it and how do we know when we've found our special someone... or when we are just trying to "save" someone so that they can love us and become our true love... ugh? Relationships of all sorts can be valuable and maybe we shouldn't be so fixated on finding "the one" anyhow. But finding someone who would be wonderful if they could just be more this or that, or if they just could just see how truly great they really are... and we're gonna help them, love them into getting there... ugh again. For anyone who's done this and has seen the light, hallelujah! It's a tough one because helping, giving, being generous are all noble on the surface. But maybe there's more to the story.
Helping professionals can sniff out our "helping" relationships and explain that when we're focused on someone else, or others in general, we're generally ignoring and/or sacrificing our own needs and maybe our individuality in general. This syndrome is apparently a ticking time bomb anyway because beneath the surface, we're likely becoming resentful and bitter anyway. So, helping, being generous, excellent... but making others a priority over our own happiness is a drain in the end. Give and take, giving and receiving, loving and being loved back is the goal, so they say. Sounds healthy;)
Blessings,
Chatigrl
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