We have all been hurt.... and is there anything more difficult than overcoming the deep pain others have inflicted upon us? We are left powerless, out of control, confused and tormented, as our minds turn the event(s) over and over, analyzing every which way. Why did they do this to us? Why did they hurt us so? How can we stop the unwanted thoughts from crashing in on us? How can we move forward when we've been so desperately wronged? We've all probably heard that harbouring negative feelings/anger for others only hurts us in the end ... and that's all well and good, but how do we stop the cycle of feeling hurt, then angry, then hurt? How do we release ourselves when part of us cannot let go of the injustice of it all? It would take a pretty incredible mind shift to move past this potentially life altering time in our history. Sometimes we need a miracle, or at least a new perspective to jar us out of our painful thinking.
Some who have managed to move forward, with relief and freedom from the past, offer this gift of wisdom...
Forgiveness does not mean approval. It involves a willingness to see with new eyes- to understand and let go. They did what they did out of their own weakness. You did not deserve it. They could not teach you what they did not know. They could not give you what they did not have.
-Dr Louise Hart, The Winning Family
Maybe we can look outside of ourselves and see that this is about the other person. This is about their weakness, their limitation(s). Perhaps even find a place of compassion so we can release ourselves from the handcuffs of our past... allowing us to move forward, onto happier times and potentially onto someone who is more capable of loving us. Maybe we can focus on that - seeking those who are less burdened, so that we are less burdened. Shall we try?
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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