I think I've said this every which way... but seriously, I think my favourite therapist is a genius. He says "as soon as you have your own back, you will have the kind of life/relationship(s) you've always wanted." What does this mean? And how do we do it? Well, here's what I've figured out and here's what I'm thinkin'... It's not about putting ourselves first by being selfish, but it's about accepting who we are and knowing what we need and want, and making no apologies for that. To be honest, I'm not exactly sure how it happens. It seems like quite a process getting to a place of complete comfort with all of our individual qualities - good, bad, weird, quirky, whatever. There's also a letting go of others and letting them be who they are and letting them do what they need to do - even if it doesn't match up with what we need or want. It's about trust - trusting that we're going to be okay no matter what and that we're going to walk our own path and find the fulfillment that we need to be happy, regardless of what others are doing around us. It's about saying no and/or letting people down sometimes because that's what we need to do for our own well-being. When we commit fully to ourselves, some amazing things happen. Most of all, there's an inner confidence and sense of security when we choose to NOT abandon our deepest thoughts, feelings, needs and wants. Just sayin :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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