We swim in uncertain waters much of the time. We just don't know. We need to make decisions, but we don't have all the information and this can lead to feeling completely foolish in the light of 20-20 hindsight. Specifically in relationships, we are asked to place our delicate emotions, and maybe our future, in someone else's hands. We can only hope that both people are able to lead with emotional honesty and courage, so says one of my cherished coaches. Emotional courage and honesty require that we face our deepest, humbling truths, with no apologies. Apparently we must own our needs/wants and allow our loved ones access to this crucial information. My cherished coach tells me this is necessary in the deepening of intimacy in relationships. Achieving real intimacy may be one of the most difficult and frightening things to accomplish in life because expressing uncomfortable realities may actually threaten the status quo and even life as we know it. We will likely subject ourselves to an overwhelming emotion that leaves us floundering. Our body may take over, rendering us temporarily lost in a place where there are no words. When we finally resurface, we will likely recognize the usual suspects; fear of failure, fear of abandonment and rejection, fear of not being good enough, fear of not being loved, fear of being alone. At the end of the day though, if we can tackle such high stakes, we may enjoy the benefits of being truly known by ourselves and those we care about. We may well live more honest, comfortable and fulfilling lives.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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