To cry or not to cry...

Here's what researchers and therapists say about crying...

"Crying is a natural emotional response to certain feelings, usually sadness and hurt. But then people (also) cry under other circumstances and occasions... people cry in response to something of beauty. There I use the word 'melting.' They are letting go of their guard, their defences, tapping into a place deep inside themselves. Crying does serve an emotional purpose. It's a release. There is a build up of energy with feelings... when someone cries, it shows their vulnerability. It's shifting the level of intimacy. It can make you feel awkward, useless, or just uncomfortable. I think in general people are uncomfortable with vulnerability." (Stephen Sideroff, University of California Los Angeles and Orthopaedic Hospital).

"Crying can also be a survival mechanism. When you cry it's a signal you need to address something... it may mean you are frustrated, overwhelmed or even just trying to get someone's attention." (Jodi DeLuca, PhD Neuropsychologist, Tampa General Hospital, Florida)

"Crying may also have a biochemical purpose, as it is believed to release stress hormones or toxins from the body." (Lauren Bylsma, University of South Florida).

"For various reasons, a lot of people push down their tears; they suppress them. One of the consequences is we sort of deaden ourselves, to suppress or not even notice we have those feelings inside. The way that looks to the outside world is depression. Better to acknowledge feelings such as sadness and hurt. Feelings are not about good or bad, it's just what is." (Sideroff)

"Those who suppress emotions and cannot cry may be jeopardizing their physical health. The sorrow which has no vent in tears may make other organs weep." (Deluca)

- Compliments of WebMD.

So! In summary, looks like the latest research is telling us that, athough potentially embarrassing in public, tears are very natural and healthy.

Blessings,

Chatgirl