Men and women - let's get on the same side already, Lol;)

Men and women can make beautiful magic together... and YET we can also produce downright nasty, ugly, even violent fireworks. Love and hate so often go hand in hand, no matter how evolved or rational each person may be. How can we cause such polarized emotions in one another? Why is it so difficult to maintain the romance and fun in our cherished relationships and why do we struggle to remain calm and rational with one another when things go sideways?

Well, according to relationship experts we need to learn about one another. Duh, Lol! We all know men and women are different... but do we tend to pay lip service to the notion and then carry on as usual;) We just might, Lol... James Bauer, Allison Armstrong, Kim Sarrasin and Marni Kinrys all tell us similar things - essentially, men and women have different operating systems. Again, we all know this, but it seems that we still manage to complain about the differences and wish the other would just change for crying out loud, ha ha. All of these experts provide detailed guides to understanding the opposite sex and the common theme is how much we misunderstand one another. It may be difficult to believe, but bridging the gap is less intimidating than one may think. For starters, we have to see the opposite sex as an ally, and not a potential frenemy, Lol;) If we were able to understand and accept that we each have our specific tendencies and needs (without judging and feeling annoyed), we may be able to maintain a level playing field and work at accommodating one another better. We need each other, don't we:) We want each other, that's for sure... so maybe we can help each other find that special and intoxicating magic more often. Nothing better than great romance, so maybe it's worth picking up a book from one of these four fabulous experts and learn how to approach each other differently. For example: women, we're supposed to learn to be more approachable in general, be less inclined to be dissatisfied, more tolerant and forthcoming with our wants/needs/desires... and men, you're supposed to bite the bullet a little more often, take a little risk and approach - and maybe ask us what we want and need sometimes... because we can find it difficult to speak up :) ....  Ladies and gentlemen... we need to love and accept each other, unconditionally, for who we naturally are ... Just sayin;) Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl