There's no way around it - the sexes are just plain different... and if we continue to be frustrated with each other, we may be missing out on the best that life has to offer. Relationship experts implore us to be more open minded and accept, with grace, our differences. It's like learning the rules of a game before playing. We know we have to work within the system of the game because that's how games work. Maybe we can apply the same principle with the other sex... learn how they work, and play within those rules;) .... check this out...
According to experts, often when women cry, it's because they feel unloved. When men feel angry or irritated, it's often because they feel disrespected (and if our men are feeling disrespected, they're most certainly feeling unloved as well). Our men want to be powerful and effective for us (right men?). We need to believe in our men and trust in their decisions... it's a respect thing... everyone loves compliments and if we can keep this in mind when communicating with our men, life will be a whooooole lot better;) After all, nobody responds well to the beat down right... so ladies, we may need to find nicer ways of communicating with our men.. and they will give back to us ten fold, for sure!! If our man is feeling appreciated and happy, he will likely feel better about investing in us and in the relationship. Men, believe it or not, the emotional thing... us mere mortal women - we pretty much can't help it... if you watch the Oscars or Golden Globes, the men calmly present their thank you's and gratitudes, while women overflow, gush and usually cry involuntarily. 'Nuff said, Lol;) ... women feel first and then work on finding the thoughts that go along with those feelings. (For more detail on how men and women "operate" differently, google any or all of the following relationship experts; James Bauer, Allison Armstrong, Kim Sarrasin, Marni Kinrys).
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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