How many times have we wanted to be there for someone ... and then something comes up. It sucks. We want to do both, but shit, not possible. So we choose the option that's important for us and end up leaving someone in the lurch. Is there anything to be done, other than apologize profusely and try to make it up at a later date. Is there any way around feeling like a total schmuck?
According to The DaVinci Dilemma website (Solutions for Multi-Talented People), here's how we can repair a situation when things go awry.
1. Recognize that we've let the person down (and if we're not sure how we've hurt them, we can ask... their avoidance or cooling off toward us will be the clue, Lol!)
Most importantly, let the person express their feelings/thoughts without us making excuses;)
2. Definitely apologize and acknowledge our understanding of the impact we've had - and keep the focus on them of course;)
3. Get creative in making amends or ask the person directly how we can make it up to them.
4. Forgive ourselves (and maybe learn something new, ha ha) because we're all doing the best we can. If we are unable to make amends with someone and we're feeling bothered, we can write a letter to them ... just for ourselves.
Nice to keep the airwaves clear;)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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