Relationship friction... a real fly in the ointment of life. It's so upsetting to endure conflict in our relationships, especially with the ones closest to us. When we care deeply, arguments hurt like hell. We often don't feel heard and/or understood and a simmer can lead to the lid flying right off! This is scary for both people. Why is it so difficult to just get along, especially when we love each other? This seems so counter-intuitive. What's the deal??
Here's where it gets really interesting... apparently, if we can swallow our pride and try something different, there's a light at the end of the proverbial shit tunnel. First off, we're supposed to learn to shut up once in while, Lol! If everyone's busy trying to be heard, then no one's listening, ha ha.... funny, but not funny, right;) So, according to Joel Brass, relationship therapist extraordinaire, here's a thought to ponder... and a way to turn this whole thing on it's head. If all of our past loves/closest family members and friends were to be interviewed about what it's like to be in a relationship with us, we would learn a whole lot about ourselves. According to Joel, there would similar stories from all of our peeps;) - and they're allowed to be "right" about their observations and experiences with us. So, painful as that sounds, we are supposed to think long and hard about this and try to see where our habitual patterns are landing us in the doghouse of our relationships. Not easy.... but if we can hear some of these "pointers", we may be able to turn our relationships around and evolve into happier, more stable individuals. Sounds novel... and tough, right? Hey, why not - we can handle it;)!
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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