We all want and need things. How much of what we want are we getting? And if we're not getting what we want and need, why aren't we? What's in the way? It is an interesting exercise to sit down, think about what we really, really want, maybe make a list and then ponder. Have we been asking for what we need and/or want, be it at work, in or relationship, from family, or from ourselves. What do the experts say?
From all walks of life, the helping professions talk about having goals and writing things down. There may be more to it though.... are we bold enough to admit to some of the things we need? Are we bold enough to ask our partner for more of what we need, say affection or romance (and not just straight up sex)? It is quite possible that what sits between us and what we desperately need is old stuff. Getting Past Your Past, by Francine Shapiro, explores potentially uncomfortable (and unconscious?) beliefs we may have about ourselves that prevent us from having the courage to pursue greater fulfillment in our lives. The exercises in this book may take us back to feeling five years old again, which feels completely humiliating and sort of ludicrous... but if we can settle some old scores and scars and feel unburdened enough to achieve greater joy... heck, maybe it's worth feeling like a bit of a loser for a few minutes. At least we can do it in private with no one there to witness our "weakness", or rather vulnerability;) As a side note - surprisingly, most people actually respond well when we're vulnerable... it just feels weak to us. Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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