To feel cared for…

Sometimes we need someone to simply be there. Not to fix anything, or to do anything in particular, but just to let us feel cared for and supported.

— Unknown

I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately, particularly when it comes to our primary, intimate relationship. There’s often a tendency to problem solve, or try to make the other feel better. Dr John Gray covers this in his enlightening book Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, where he says men try to solve the problem, rather than simply lend a shoulder. I think women may do it as well. I’ve been noticing lately that I need to listen more and solve less. My favourite therapist says what we usually need is the space to feel what we’re feeling, which is often fear, worry, uncertainty. From there, we can figure out if there’s action required. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl