The truth is, none of us are easy to date, deal with, or please all the time. We have our vices, attitudes and way of doing things that make us unique. You won’t like everything about somebody, it’s impossible. This is life, and it isn’t about finding the perfect person, there’s no such thing. It isn’t about living some happily ever after fairy tale. It’s about finding someone you’re willing to work for, and who is willing to work for you. It’s simple, but yet so hard to achieve.
— Unknown
In my experience, there are challenging relationship dynamics and there are easier dynamics. There are also more difficult matches and there are more natural lifestyle match ups. My failed relationships were defined by irreconcilable differences; didn’t have enough in common (which led to going our separate ways on some weekends/week nights and then more weekends and week nights), an inability to achieve understanding and respect for one another’s needs/wants (incompatible communication styles and priorities?) and overall, simply not enough synergy to work well together. It’s one thing to go on fun dates or a weekend get away, but it’s a whole different ball game being married and living together full time. A big lesson learned for me. So if one were to ask me how I achieved relationship bliss (or close to it anyway), I’d say shoot for a VERY compatible match (similar lifestyle/hobbies, values and really, really like each other). Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck! XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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