Saving ourselves…

As traumatized children 

we always dreamed that someone would come and save us.

We never dreamed that it would, in fact, be ourselves, as adults.

— Alice Little (Author of self-help books based on her own background and research of narcissistic abuse, child abuse, neglect and scapegoating. Little is a survivor of extreme child abuse and narcissistic abuse both as a child and as an adult. In order to escape the abusive people in her life she took the decision to leave the life she had created and everything and everyone she knew to start again and heal herself. In doing so she lost everything including her family of origin, friends, spiritual group, career, home and wealth. She now leads a peaceful life, writing most days. Titles by Alice; No Contact-The Final Boundary: Surviving Parental Narcissistic Abuse, Healing the Traumatized Adult, Healing from Depression: A Memoir of Childhood Narcissistic Abuse). 

Research tells us abusive behaviour crosses all racial, economic and cultural lines, and that not all abusive parents intentionally harm their children. Many have been victims themselves and/or don’t know any other way to parent. Others may be struggling with addiction issues and/or mental health issues. That said, many of us are left with scars from childhood. My favourite therapist says that, although the work of healing is not for the faint of heart, we stand to gain much improved relationships and a better life overall, if we’re willing to dig in and tend to some of some of the old wounds. Just sayin’ :) Hugs. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl