We often avoid asking questions that feel too sensitive or personal. But avoiding these potentially awkward conversations comes at a cost: When negotiating a salary or choosing where to live, for example, it can be very useful to know how much a coworker earns or how much a friend pays in rent... Our recent research shows that, on average, people err too far on the side of politeness. In our studies, we found that people generally avoided asking sensitive questions out of fear that they would offend their conversation partners — but when they actually did ask these questions, most people were far less offended than their partners had expected them to be.
— Evian Hart, Eric M. VanEpps and Maurice Schweitzer, Harvard Business Review
My favourite therapist teaches seminars on “clearing” which is similar. Individuals in the group are supposed to approach one another if they feel any discomfort/friction/judgment between them. This leads to authentic sharing, a better understanding of one another, empathy for the other, and a real connection. Just sayin’ :) Hugs. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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