How the Dalai Lama defines a successful person:
1. The true hero is one who conquers his own anger or hatred.
2. An open heart is an open mind.
3. The roots of all goodness lie in the soil of appreciation.
4. The goal is not to be better than the other man, but better than your previous self.
5. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
6. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
7. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
8. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.
My favourite therapist says that our childhood conditioning, and potential trauma, tends to leave us with issues and potentially a lack of critical relationship skills. If we so choose, it is possible to acquire some of the skills that were not imparted along the way. For example, instead of getting angry and yelling or giving someone the cold shoulder, we could learn to “clear” with that person. Clearing means approaching/addressing an issue that respects both people. This means explaining what our experience was, how it made us feel and making a request for different behaviour. The other person, in turn, could explain their side of things and respond to the request. This type of discussion allows for learning, understanding, compassion and a better quality relationship. Just sayin’ :) Hugs. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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