Emotional healing and the central nervous system…

Once you heal trauma, you heal the nervous system. 

When you heal the nervous system, you heal the emotional body.  

When you heal the emotional body, you heal the psychic (empathic) body.

When you heal the psychic body, you heal vibration. 

Once the vibration is healed, realities change. 

— Unknown 

I’ve been working on trauma healing for a while now (because I grew up with a lot of fear, given a very Al Pacino in Godfather Part 2 kind of father, yikes!), and I definitely see results every time I have a “Craniosacral Therapy” session. (This treatment is said to encourage the body’s natural healing process through the use of gentle touch and very light pressure. The Craniosacral system includes our brain, spinal cord, nerves and the cerebrospinal fluild surrounding them). Above all, I seem to come away with bit of extra breathing/thinking room, which is quite calming. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Show up for yourself in ways that feel good to you…

If you can’t meditate, pause before every sip of coffee.

If you can’t pray, simply say ‘thank you’ before every meal.  

If you can’t manifest, enjoy what’s already yours.

And if you can’t journal, talk to yourself in the car.

There is no spirituality rule book.

Just show up for yourself in ways that feel good to you. 

— Vex King (Author of Good Vibes Good Life, with two Sunday Times bestsellers. King is an acclaimed mind coach who rose to fame on Instagram)

This feels very kind to self, allowing for rest, and acceptance for where life is at today. I think it may also offer one time to contemplate what’s most important. Maybe ambition/money are less important than we may think? Great relationships keep showing up as the biggest predictor of happiness and well being. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

Healthy love…

The most important lesson you can learn is that 

a healthy love does not hurt 

it heals

— L.E Bowman 

I wish I could go back and tell my younger self. It took me far too long to learn about, and settle for nothing less than healthy boundaries, mutual respect and reciprocity. It’s never too late, however, and I am very grateful to have found a fulfilling and safe relationship. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

How to make true connection possible…

The illusion that everything will just turn out magically without having to communicate thoughts, feelings and needs in a relationship is an immaturity that will make true connection impossible.

— Unknown 

I don’t know about you, but I did not acquire sound relationship skills from my family of origin. There was a lot of screaming and yelling, Lol, but a lack of resolution. I came to avoid conflict and anger because it didn’t seem to solve anything. I would typically go quiet (and pout!), which is also unhelpful. Fortunately, one of my relationships led me to a fantastic therapist/seminar leader and I learned an abundance of healthy communication skills. Who knew?! “Clearing” stands out from the rest, as it provides a kind, caring and respectful way of inviting each partner to share their experience and make requests. Kindest thing ever actually. It’ll change your life. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

If you thank yourself…

If you thank your mind, it will relax. 

If you thank your heart, it will open.

If you thank your past, it will integrate.

If you thank your symptoms, they will heal. If you thank your shadow, it will vanish.

If you thank your life, it will transform.

If you thank yourself, the light will dawn.

— Matt Kahn (YouTube sensation, spiritual teacher, empathic healer, speaker and author. His intention is to provide heart-centred solutions that will ignite and unite people). 

I just tried this out and there is a real kindness and compassion to the suggestions. Very nurturing. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

As you begin to speak and live your truth, remember…

* It’s normal to outgrow partners, friends and acquaintances.

* It’s normal to feel intense guilt at putting yourself first. 

* It’s normal to feel unusually sensitive or need more solitude.

* It’s normal to freak out after setting a healthy boundary.

* It’s normal to be extremely angry at people and communities you used to shrink yourself to accommodate.

— @haileypaigemagee (Codependency Recovery Coach) 

Well, this is a timely bit of wisdom I must say. I don’t know about you, but I experienced some post pandemic relationship fall outs. My mother also passed away in August and my savvy life coach tells me that sweeping changes often follow. You realize there are things you don’t want to do anymore, and that you don’t need to do anymore. It’s quite liberating, but somehow painful as well. Apparently, even welcome changes are hard and take adjustment. Good to know. Just sayin’ : ) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

Resurrect deep pain and let it live somewhere else…

You gotta resurrect the deep pain within you and give it a place to live that’s not within your body. 

Let it live in art. 

Let it live in writing.

Let it live in music.

Let it be devoured by building brighter connections.

Your body is not a coffin for pain to be buried in. Put it somewhere else. 

— ehimeora (Nigerian writer and priestess, who strives to facilitate tangible joy and spiritual well being within her communities. Ora creates captivating content that heals, inspires the soul, and connects others back to themselves). 

Outside of traditional, individual therapy, my favourite therapist conducts regular group therapy seminars for this exact purpose. In this dynamic setting, each individual is exposed to stories and experiences that help bring their own unresolved emotions to the surface to be dealt with and healed. The sessions begin with a disclaimer that this work is not for the faint of heart, because one weekend workshop may just be the tip of the iceberg. For those who fully commit, the pay off his life altering. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl