People who go silent when something upsets or hurts them, are often experiencing a coping mechanism called emotional withdrawal. It’s not that they have nothing to say, it’s that their system learned that silence is safer than being misunderstood. Instead of expressing anger or frustration, they hold it in.
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That used to be me. I grew up in a world war three environment, with endless eruptions and zero resolution. So, to me, anger was dangerous and counter productive. Fortunately, with professional help, I’ve learned that anger is actually an important emotion, that can help us identify our needs and create safe boundaries. I’ve also learned that not all relationships allow for the “clearing” that’s necessary for a healthy relationship. Both individuals need to be willing to listen, and be accountable for their own end in issues as they come up. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs and good luck. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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