To be kind is more important than to be right. Many times what people need is not a brilliant mind that speaks but a special heart that listens.
- tinybuddha.com
Note to self, yet again. I still fall victim to speaking when I should/could be listening. We all need to vent or bounce something off a supportive soul once in a while, don't we? Just sayin' :)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Sunday, April 30, 2017
Saturday, April 29, 2017
Toxic?...
The only way to win with a toxic person is not to play.
- @PeacefulMindPeacefulLife
Took me a while to figure that one out. Just sayin' ;)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- @PeacefulMindPeacefulLife
Took me a while to figure that one out. Just sayin' ;)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Friday, April 28, 2017
Growth or safety?...
"In any given moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety."
- Abraham Maslow, American psychologist best known for creating Maslow's hierarchy of needs, a theory of psychological health predicated on fulfilling innate human needs in priority, where the highest level is self-actualization. He stressed the importance of focusing on the positive qualities in people, as opposed to treating them as a collection of symptoms. Maslow was ranked tenth most cited psychologist of the 20th century by A Review of General Psychology (2002).
Maybe sometimes we're just not ready to leap. If and when we can muster it, the outcome can be pretty cool. Sure, we could humiliate ourselves briefly, but hey, that happens to everyone at some point, doesn't it? Might be worth a shot. Just sayin' ;) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Abraham Maslow, American psychologist best known for creating Maslow's hierarchy of needs, a theory of psychological health predicated on fulfilling innate human needs in priority, where the highest level is self-actualization. He stressed the importance of focusing on the positive qualities in people, as opposed to treating them as a collection of symptoms. Maslow was ranked tenth most cited psychologist of the 20th century by A Review of General Psychology (2002).
Maybe sometimes we're just not ready to leap. If and when we can muster it, the outcome can be pretty cool. Sure, we could humiliate ourselves briefly, but hey, that happens to everyone at some point, doesn't it? Might be worth a shot. Just sayin' ;) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Thursday, April 27, 2017
The soul says...
The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.
- Carolyn Myss, medical intuit and guru
Apparently our body believes what our brain tells it and we can potentially compromise or enhance our state of well-being. I keep hearing that even long deep breaths can do the world to calm us. We live in such a state of multi-tasking and stress these days. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Carolyn Myss, medical intuit and guru
Apparently our body believes what our brain tells it and we can potentially compromise or enhance our state of well-being. I keep hearing that even long deep breaths can do the world to calm us. We live in such a state of multi-tasking and stress these days. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Wednesday, April 26, 2017
What we see...
We do not see things as they are, we see things as we are.
- Anais Nin
As very wise people say, we wear a biased pair of lenses and this affects how we act and what we bring into our lives. Food for thought. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Tuesday, April 25, 2017
Deeper powers within...
Opportunities to find deeper powers within ourselves come when life seems most challenging.
- Joseph Campbell, American mythologist, writer and lecturer best known for his work in comparative mythology and comparative religion. His work covers many aspects of the human experience and his philosophy has been summarized by his own often repeated phrase: "Follow your bliss."
I guess we don't know what we're capable of until we're tested. I've been in situations where there's simply no one to help and I managed to surprise myself. Actually, just surviving a tough time somehow builds confidence. You realize you're stronger than you thought. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Joseph Campbell, American mythologist, writer and lecturer best known for his work in comparative mythology and comparative religion. His work covers many aspects of the human experience and his philosophy has been summarized by his own often repeated phrase: "Follow your bliss."
I guess we don't know what we're capable of until we're tested. I've been in situations where there's simply no one to help and I managed to surprise myself. Actually, just surviving a tough time somehow builds confidence. You realize you're stronger than you thought. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Monday, April 24, 2017
Bolstering self-esteem...
Healthy self-esteem is comprised of self-worth, self-confidence and self-acceptance and is independent of our achievements or what people think of us.
Some ways to bolster self-esteem:
1. Be realistic - focus on doing your best each day, and try not to compare to others.
2. Focus on your accomplishments - also try to get out of your comfort zone. Taking healthy risks can help build confidence and enliven you.
3. Look inside yourself rather than at your external circumstances, as things change around us. Determine your personal, instrinsically-driven sense of purpose. What truly matters to you and what values are near to your heart?
4. Be an active participant in your life - set goals and take regular, manageable steps toward achieving them.
5. Engage in positive mental imagery - imagine yourself succeeding and even rehearse being self-confident.
6. Think positive thoughts - be mindful of your habitual thoughts and weed out the negative and self-sabotaging ones. Accept that your thoughts are major contributors to your emotions.
7. Be truly grateful - for all the blessings you have now. Rehearse and even write down the things you are grateful for and try to see the silver lining.
8. Practice healthy self-care - nurture yourself, eat well, get lots of sleep, exercise and make time in your schedule for rest and relaxation (and have lots of fun!).
9. Meditate - you can even simply take a walk, take deep breaths and think pleasant, peaceful, happy thoughts. Your body believes what your mind tells it, so direct your thinking toward the good.
10. Get your needs met in a healthy manner - identify what you need and define what your choices are for getting those needs met. Above all, act honourably and know that you may not end up getting everything you think you need (often in hindsight this is a blessing).
- Ref. Rachel Fintzy (MA, LMFT), PsychCentral, 10 Ways to Increase Self-Esteem
Feeling good about ourselves may not come naturally, given our upbringing and life experiences, but this is certainly a most worthy endeavour. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Some ways to bolster self-esteem:
1. Be realistic - focus on doing your best each day, and try not to compare to others.
2. Focus on your accomplishments - also try to get out of your comfort zone. Taking healthy risks can help build confidence and enliven you.
3. Look inside yourself rather than at your external circumstances, as things change around us. Determine your personal, instrinsically-driven sense of purpose. What truly matters to you and what values are near to your heart?
4. Be an active participant in your life - set goals and take regular, manageable steps toward achieving them.
5. Engage in positive mental imagery - imagine yourself succeeding and even rehearse being self-confident.
6. Think positive thoughts - be mindful of your habitual thoughts and weed out the negative and self-sabotaging ones. Accept that your thoughts are major contributors to your emotions.
7. Be truly grateful - for all the blessings you have now. Rehearse and even write down the things you are grateful for and try to see the silver lining.
8. Practice healthy self-care - nurture yourself, eat well, get lots of sleep, exercise and make time in your schedule for rest and relaxation (and have lots of fun!).
9. Meditate - you can even simply take a walk, take deep breaths and think pleasant, peaceful, happy thoughts. Your body believes what your mind tells it, so direct your thinking toward the good.
10. Get your needs met in a healthy manner - identify what you need and define what your choices are for getting those needs met. Above all, act honourably and know that you may not end up getting everything you think you need (often in hindsight this is a blessing).
- Ref. Rachel Fintzy (MA, LMFT), PsychCentral, 10 Ways to Increase Self-Esteem
Feeling good about ourselves may not come naturally, given our upbringing and life experiences, but this is certainly a most worthy endeavour. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Sunday, April 23, 2017
A soul with stamina...
To love yourself, truly love yourself is to finally discover the essence of personal courage, self-respect, integrity, and self-esteem. These are the qualities of grace that come directly from a soul with stamina.
- Carolyn Myss, author of 5 New York Times Best Sellers. Myss is a medical intuitive and mystic, who explores the spiritual and psychological roadblocks of life. (You may have seen her on Oprah).
Over the years, I kept hearing guru's talk about "going inward" and I had absolutely no idea what the heck they were talking about. Many years and much exploration later, I have managed to understand what it means to take that inward journey. We seek answers and fulfilment in the context of our external world; through love relationships, the pursuit of money and success, through our children. In the end, however, self-esteem is something we need to cultivate and extend to ourselves. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Carolyn Myss, author of 5 New York Times Best Sellers. Myss is a medical intuitive and mystic, who explores the spiritual and psychological roadblocks of life. (You may have seen her on Oprah).
Over the years, I kept hearing guru's talk about "going inward" and I had absolutely no idea what the heck they were talking about. Many years and much exploration later, I have managed to understand what it means to take that inward journey. We seek answers and fulfilment in the context of our external world; through love relationships, the pursuit of money and success, through our children. In the end, however, self-esteem is something we need to cultivate and extend to ourselves. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Saturday, April 22, 2017
Glory in practice...
There is no glory in practice, but without practice, there is no glory...
- Unknown
I don't know if we give ourselves enough time in life; to learn something new, to become proficient at a skill, to truly get to know someone, to get ahead financially, to feel we're successful? We have timelines on everything; when we should own our first home, what age is acceptable to deliver on society's notion of success (which is generally monetary), when to have a family. We put such pressure on ourselves. Maybe there's time... for small pleasures, like luxuriating in heavenly desserts, going for long romantic walks, laughing until the wee hours, sleeping in, being spontaneous, doing nothing. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Unknown
I don't know if we give ourselves enough time in life; to learn something new, to become proficient at a skill, to truly get to know someone, to get ahead financially, to feel we're successful? We have timelines on everything; when we should own our first home, what age is acceptable to deliver on society's notion of success (which is generally monetary), when to have a family. We put such pressure on ourselves. Maybe there's time... for small pleasures, like luxuriating in heavenly desserts, going for long romantic walks, laughing until the wee hours, sleeping in, being spontaneous, doing nothing. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Friday, April 21, 2017
The Journey...
The journey is filled with ups and downs.
Don't confuse the two as ever being everlasting.
Get up everyday and apply yourself, be authentic, trust your instincts and know that the more
you apply yourself the better you get day by day. The day you are waiting for is the day you want to give up, that is when you MUST keep going.
That's the barrier between normal and greatness.
- Jackson Kiddard
I've realized that you really do get back what you put out... and if the result is a bit of a let down, at least you know you tried your absolute best. And then you can hopefully let go. It's too easy to talk ourselves out of doing things, but in the end, this isn't fulfilling either. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Don't confuse the two as ever being everlasting.
Get up everyday and apply yourself, be authentic, trust your instincts and know that the more
you apply yourself the better you get day by day. The day you are waiting for is the day you want to give up, that is when you MUST keep going.
That's the barrier between normal and greatness.
- Jackson Kiddard
I've realized that you really do get back what you put out... and if the result is a bit of a let down, at least you know you tried your absolute best. And then you can hopefully let go. It's too easy to talk ourselves out of doing things, but in the end, this isn't fulfilling either. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Thursday, April 20, 2017
What we do...
You are what you do, not what you say you'll do.
- Unknown
Great reminder. I've managed to stop over-promising lately, which feels like a huge sense of accomplishment. Somehow I came up as a people-pleaser. Not sure if it's a genetic thing, birth order or what have you, but it sure feels good to take the pressure off oneself. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Unknown
Great reminder. I've managed to stop over-promising lately, which feels like a huge sense of accomplishment. Somehow I came up as a people-pleaser. Not sure if it's a genetic thing, birth order or what have you, but it sure feels good to take the pressure off oneself. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Wednesday, April 19, 2017
The proverbial filter...
People generally see what they look for and hear what they listen for.
- Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird
We hear bits and pieces of wisdom and perhaps we even know a bunch of them by heart. Why is it that we don't necessarily integrate them into our lives? Maybe we have to be ready to learn certain things? I observed myself just the other day wanting/needing to be in the know, rather than choosing to listen and learn something new that could potentially enhance my life or make my job easier. I really wonder why that is. Maybe we're afraid of being judged. Maybe we think we should know everything now that we're full fledged adults. Whatever the case may be, it's quite a revelation to take ourselves off the hot seat and listen for a change. Pretty relaxing actually. Just sayin' ;)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird
We hear bits and pieces of wisdom and perhaps we even know a bunch of them by heart. Why is it that we don't necessarily integrate them into our lives? Maybe we have to be ready to learn certain things? I observed myself just the other day wanting/needing to be in the know, rather than choosing to listen and learn something new that could potentially enhance my life or make my job easier. I really wonder why that is. Maybe we're afraid of being judged. Maybe we think we should know everything now that we're full fledged adults. Whatever the case may be, it's quite a revelation to take ourselves off the hot seat and listen for a change. Pretty relaxing actually. Just sayin' ;)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Tuesday, April 18, 2017
Mental rest...
The cultivation of mental rest, or surrender, is like eating healthy food. It doesn't give us an immediate rush, but over time it provides a lot more energy.
- Marianne Williamson, Return to Love
Speaking of which, I did manage to give up sugar, for the most part. I now treat myself once in a while - and then remember why I gave it up in the first place. Why is it that some of the yummiest things make us feel crappy after the fact;) Sucks. The mental rest thing is huge as well. Many years back, I read a number of great books that talked about calming the mind. They say whatever we can do to "quiet" the mind offers the possibility of peace and reprieve from our daily stressors. I have to say, it's worked for me in a big way; yoga, writing, daydreaming, swimming, even cleaning, or what have you. Just sayin' ;)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Marianne Williamson, Return to Love
Speaking of which, I did manage to give up sugar, for the most part. I now treat myself once in a while - and then remember why I gave it up in the first place. Why is it that some of the yummiest things make us feel crappy after the fact;) Sucks. The mental rest thing is huge as well. Many years back, I read a number of great books that talked about calming the mind. They say whatever we can do to "quiet" the mind offers the possibility of peace and reprieve from our daily stressors. I have to say, it's worked for me in a big way; yoga, writing, daydreaming, swimming, even cleaning, or what have you. Just sayin' ;)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Monday, April 17, 2017
Emotional stability...
There's a biblical story where Jesus says we can build our house on sand or we can build it on rock. Our house is our emotional stability. When it is built on sand, then the winds and rain can tear it down. One disappointing phone call and we crumble; one storm and the house falls down. When our house is built on rock, then it is sturdy and strong and the storms can't destroy it.
- Marianne Williamson, Return to Love
What does it take to achieve that level of emotional stability? Maybe asking that question is half the battle? Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Marianne Williamson, Return to Love
What does it take to achieve that level of emotional stability? Maybe asking that question is half the battle? Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Sunday, April 16, 2017
Needing love...
"...universally accepting that children need love, but at what age are people supposed to stop needing it? We never do. We need love in order to live happily, as much as we need oxygen in order to live at all."
- Marianne Williamson, Return to Love
So I guess we should make no apologies for craving love and hugs. Just sayin' ... xo
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Marianne Williamson, Return to Love
So I guess we should make no apologies for craving love and hugs. Just sayin' ... xo
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Saturday, April 15, 2017
Funny and profound eternal truths - Part Three...
Compliments of Joel Brass, therapist extraordinaire (Written by Sheldon B. Kopp)
31 - 43:
31. How strange, that so often, it all seems worth it.
32. We must live within the ambiguity of partial freedom, partial power, and partial knowledge.
33. All important decisions must be made on the basis of insufficient data.
34. We are responsible for everything we do.
35. No excuses will be accepted.
36. You can run, but you can't hide
37. It is important to run out of scapegoats.
38. We must learn the power of living with our helplessness.
39. The only victory lies in surrender to oneself.
40. All of the significant battles are waged with the self.
41. You are free to do whatever you like. You need only to face the consequences.
42. What do you know ... for sure ... anyway?
43. Learn to forigve yourself, again and again and again...
- Sheldon B. Kopp, If you Meet the Buddha on the Road, Kill Him!
We truly are left to contend with ourselves, aren't we... after a break-up, or job loss, or death of a loved one or pet?... Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
31 - 43:
31. How strange, that so often, it all seems worth it.
32. We must live within the ambiguity of partial freedom, partial power, and partial knowledge.
33. All important decisions must be made on the basis of insufficient data.
34. We are responsible for everything we do.
35. No excuses will be accepted.
36. You can run, but you can't hide
37. It is important to run out of scapegoats.
38. We must learn the power of living with our helplessness.
39. The only victory lies in surrender to oneself.
40. All of the significant battles are waged with the self.
41. You are free to do whatever you like. You need only to face the consequences.
42. What do you know ... for sure ... anyway?
43. Learn to forigve yourself, again and again and again...
- Sheldon B. Kopp, If you Meet the Buddha on the Road, Kill Him!
We truly are left to contend with ourselves, aren't we... after a break-up, or job loss, or death of a loved one or pet?... Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Friday, April 14, 2017
List of funny and profound eternal truths - Part Two...
Compliments of Joel Brass, therapist extraordinaire (written by Sheldon B. Kopp)
11 - 30, of 43
11. You have a responsibility to do your best nonetheless.
12. It is a random universe to which we bring meaning.
13. You don't really control anything.
14. You can't make anyone love you.
15. No one is any stronger or weaker than anyone else.
16. Everyone is, in their own way, vulnerable.
17. There are no great persons.
18. If you have a hero, look again; you have diminished yourself in some way.
19. Everyone lies, cheats, pretends (yes, you too, and most certainly I, myself).
20. All evil is potential vitality in need of transformation.
21. All of you is worth something, if you will only own it.
22. Progress is an illusion.
23. Evil can be displaced but never eradicated, as all solutions breed new problems.
24. Yet it is necessary to keep on struggling toward solution.
25. Childhood is a nightmare.
26. But it is so very hard to be an on-your-own-cause-there-is-no-one-else-to-to-it-for-you grown up.
27. Each of us is ultimately alone.
28. The most important things, each person must do for himself.
29. Love is not enough, but it sure helps.
30. We have only ouselves and one another. That may not be much, but is sure helps.
- Sheldon B. Kopp, If you Meet Buddha on the road, Kill Him!
The courage to accept who we really are warts and all, bravery in realizing we have no choice but to deal with certain things on our own in life, surrender to what life brings and above all being open to and welcoming love into our lives are some of the things that come to mind when pondering such wisdom. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
11 - 30, of 43
11. You have a responsibility to do your best nonetheless.
12. It is a random universe to which we bring meaning.
13. You don't really control anything.
14. You can't make anyone love you.
15. No one is any stronger or weaker than anyone else.
16. Everyone is, in their own way, vulnerable.
17. There are no great persons.
18. If you have a hero, look again; you have diminished yourself in some way.
19. Everyone lies, cheats, pretends (yes, you too, and most certainly I, myself).
20. All evil is potential vitality in need of transformation.
21. All of you is worth something, if you will only own it.
22. Progress is an illusion.
23. Evil can be displaced but never eradicated, as all solutions breed new problems.
24. Yet it is necessary to keep on struggling toward solution.
25. Childhood is a nightmare.
26. But it is so very hard to be an on-your-own-cause-there-is-no-one-else-to-to-it-for-you grown up.
27. Each of us is ultimately alone.
28. The most important things, each person must do for himself.
29. Love is not enough, but it sure helps.
30. We have only ouselves and one another. That may not be much, but is sure helps.
- Sheldon B. Kopp, If you Meet Buddha on the road, Kill Him!
The courage to accept who we really are warts and all, bravery in realizing we have no choice but to deal with certain things on our own in life, surrender to what life brings and above all being open to and welcoming love into our lives are some of the things that come to mind when pondering such wisdom. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Thursday, April 13, 2017
List of funny and profound eternal truths...
Compliments of Joel Brass, therapist extraordinaire... (written by Sheldon B. Kopp)
Part 1 (10 of 43):
1. This is it!
2. There are no hidden meanings.
3. You can't get there from here. And besides there's no place else to go.
4. We are already dying, and we will be dead for a long time.
5. Nothing lasts.
6. There is no way of getting all you want.
7. You can't have anything unless you let go of it.
8. You can only get to keep what you give away.
9. There is no particular reason why you lost out on some things.
10. The world is not necessarily just. Being good often does not pay off,
and there is no compensation for misfortune.
- Sheldon B. Kopp, from his book If you Meet the Buddha on the Road, Kill Him!
Profound indeed. Just sayin' :)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Part 1 (10 of 43):
1. This is it!
2. There are no hidden meanings.
3. You can't get there from here. And besides there's no place else to go.
4. We are already dying, and we will be dead for a long time.
5. Nothing lasts.
6. There is no way of getting all you want.
7. You can't have anything unless you let go of it.
8. You can only get to keep what you give away.
9. There is no particular reason why you lost out on some things.
10. The world is not necessarily just. Being good often does not pay off,
and there is no compensation for misfortune.
- Sheldon B. Kopp, from his book If you Meet the Buddha on the Road, Kill Him!
Profound indeed. Just sayin' :)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Wednesday, April 12, 2017
Mindset...
Never underestimate the power of your mindset.
- Unknown
Managing fear and doubt can feel like a full time job. I'm not sure why leaning on faith and trust doesn't come more naturally, but it sure seems to pay off. Just sayin' :)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Unknown
Managing fear and doubt can feel like a full time job. I'm not sure why leaning on faith and trust doesn't come more naturally, but it sure seems to pay off. Just sayin' :)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Tuesday, April 11, 2017
Beautiful inside or out?...
Beauty is compelling, valued and coveted. I'm not sure what it takes to understand and value inner beauty beyond the external esthetic, but when this message hits home, wow. Words pale. Imagine observing someone you love demonstrate profound inner strength; following through on a commitment at one's own personal sacrifice, having a friend's back despite perhaps lesser treatment in return, protecting a friend's honor that's maybe less than stellar... to name just a few. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Monday, April 10, 2017
We did our bit...
Success means we go to sleep at night knowing that our talents and our abilities were used in a way that served people. We're compensated by grateful looks in other people's eyes, whatever material abundance supports us in performing joyfully and at high energy, and the magnificent feeling that we did our bit today to help save the world.
- Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles"
Over the years I've noticed that wise people often talk about the importance of volunteering and giving back. They say this sort of selflessness cultivates greater happiness and potentially improves our self-esteem. I don't know that I understood the idea fully. Come to think of it, I look back and realize there's a lot of wisdom that took years to sink in. I'm not sure why that it is, but I guess we learn things in our own way and in our own time. In the end, I've found myself fulfilled by the things I resisted the most; working harder at my career, giving up sugar, saying no when necessary, speaking my truth more often and putting my thoughts out to the world. Making commitments can feel intimidating, as though we're putting too much on the line, but surprisingly my boldest gestures have blessed me with a deep and meaningful sense of community, safety, pride and fulfillment. Just sayin' :) Hugs. xo
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles"
Over the years I've noticed that wise people often talk about the importance of volunteering and giving back. They say this sort of selflessness cultivates greater happiness and potentially improves our self-esteem. I don't know that I understood the idea fully. Come to think of it, I look back and realize there's a lot of wisdom that took years to sink in. I'm not sure why that it is, but I guess we learn things in our own way and in our own time. In the end, I've found myself fulfilled by the things I resisted the most; working harder at my career, giving up sugar, saying no when necessary, speaking my truth more often and putting my thoughts out to the world. Making commitments can feel intimidating, as though we're putting too much on the line, but surprisingly my boldest gestures have blessed me with a deep and meaningful sense of community, safety, pride and fulfillment. Just sayin' :) Hugs. xo
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Thursday, April 6, 2017
What's more important?...
We were taught that things like grades, being good enough, money, and doing things the right way, are more important than love.
- Marianne Williamson, Return to Love
Wow, how true is that! Leaves you working your ass off to earn love. Just sayin' ;)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Marianne Williamson, Return to Love
Wow, how true is that! Leaves you working your ass off to earn love. Just sayin' ;)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Wednesday, April 5, 2017
We are powerful...
We think we're powerful because of what we've achieved rather than because of what we are.
- Marianne Williamson, Return to Love
When we're truly tested, we see what we're capable of. Just sayin' ;)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Marianne Williamson, Return to Love
When we're truly tested, we see what we're capable of. Just sayin' ;)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Monday, April 3, 2017
Reprogram our conditioning?...
On a more serious note...
Our parents (and culture of origin) don't just raise us, they indoctrinate us and so we're left to reprogram our brains, if we so choose. What is truly possible vs what our parents preached? A lot of us grew up hearing "money doesn't grow on trees" etc. On that note, where would we be as a society if individuals had not challenged the status quo? Progress does not come easy and battles were fought to allow for; women getting the vote, desegragation, mixed race marriages (re: the movie "Loving"). Of course we have to follow society's rules/laws, but I think we owe it to humanity and ourselves to question things once in a while. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Our parents (and culture of origin) don't just raise us, they indoctrinate us and so we're left to reprogram our brains, if we so choose. What is truly possible vs what our parents preached? A lot of us grew up hearing "money doesn't grow on trees" etc. On that note, where would we be as a society if individuals had not challenged the status quo? Progress does not come easy and battles were fought to allow for; women getting the vote, desegragation, mixed race marriages (re: the movie "Loving"). Of course we have to follow society's rules/laws, but I think we owe it to humanity and ourselves to question things once in a while. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Sunday, April 2, 2017
Energy suck...
I'm all for giving selflessly and it can feel really good to help someone in need. For self-preservation however, we may need to revisit the emotional balance sheet once in a while. Are our relationships mutually beneficial? Do we give and receive effortlessly with one another? Or is there energy going out the back door? We all experience temporary set backs and tough times in life. Fair enough. Unfortunately, the "tough times" and poor me attitude can persist and become tiring. Personally speaking, I think we owe it to ourselves to be aware of where and when our energy is being drained. We all have challenges and stressors in our lives and frankly we need our own energy reserves for our own health and well-being. We are responsible to ourselves first and foremost and then we can extend to others if and when we are able... duty and obligation tempered, we're allowed to take ourselves off the crisis hotline if we need to. Just sayin' :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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