Knowing that you are not responsible for other people’s bad moods, silent treatment, negative reactions to your boundaries, lack of emotional maturity or victim mentality.
— @h.e.l.e.n.m.a.r.i.e.
I’ve had quite the epiphany recently. I used to be more “Switzerland” in my relationships, with the bandwidth to hold space for others. I was happy to listen, with openness, and appreciate whatever mood/grievance this person had, with curiosity and support. Even if the energy coming back had a fair bit of emotional weight at times. But as I’ve aged, the demands on my own well being have required a preservation of my energy and psyche. Simply put, I ran out of steam (which is very common with women of a certain age. The big “change” and all that). I needed to pull back in a big, perhaps startling way, and this self-retreat landed badly on some of my important relationships. In hindsight, I wish I could have communicated better about my needs and experience along the way. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs and good luck. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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