Never get your sense of worth from outside yourself. Never fall into the trap of thinking that who you are isn’t enough, and that you need other people’s approval, love and validation in order to feel that you’re of value.
Never allow external things, places, people and circumstances to determine or tell you how much you’re worth.
It’s called self worth for a reason.
— Luminita Saviuc/Power of /Wordz/ig
Unfortunately, my self-worth was legitimately compromised by my family of origin. Even though I was a top performer; Honour Roll student, Captain of the basketball team, scholarship winner, employee of the month twice at work, worked two jobs and tutored through high school and college, soloist for the bands and choirs, etc., I was tragically short on praise at home. My parents were highly focused on tough love, believing this was most important in raising high quality adults. I don’t mind tough love actually. I think it teaches a lot of accountability and ownership. But I wish there could have been more balance, with love, compassion and praise when fairly earned. This somewhat military upbringing left me feeling not good enough, regardless of the multitude of kudo’s I received outside the home. It’s taken a lot of therapy to overcome the lack of acknowledgement and appreciation I grew up with. And even still, I love my atta girls. So clearly self-worth is complicated, with deep roots and takes care and cultivation. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs and good luck. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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