Be selective in your focus…

Energy is the currency of the universe. 

When you “pay” attention to something, you buy that experience. So when you allow your consciousness to focus on someone or something that annoys you, you feed it your energy, and it reciprocates the experience of being annoyed. Be selective in your focus because your attention feeds the energy of it and keeps it alive; not just within you, but in the collective unconscious as well.

— Unknown 

I’ve heard this expressed in many ways. For example, you hear “What you focus on expands”. So whatever we think about, and potentially ruminate about, can leave us stuck in negative and harmful thoughts and feelings. I certainly needed help getting past my final break up. I was stubbornly entrenched in anger and hurt when I discovered an affair, and big big betrayal, with someone from our inner circle. Even worse, I had actually betrayed myself. In truth, I had been moving away from the relationship for about a year, but just didn’t tell my partner, and I didn’t move out. So the person I was most angry with was me. My favourite therapist helped me understand why I dragged my heels on the break up. He also helped me understand that my choice of partner wasn’t a sound match from the get go. Yikes. Fortunately, I was able to readjust my compass, and understand what sort of person would fit well into my life. I ended up finding the love of my life about a year later, and we just had our 10 year anniversary this week. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl