My therapist told me:
“A sign of childhood trauma? Trying to make the people who hurt you be nicer to you—instead of walking away.”
Because as a child, you weren’t given the option to leave. You only knew how to stay, how to fix, how to earn love that should have been freely given.
Healing starts when you stop seeking kindness from the ones who made you beg for it.
— Unknown
This really hits home for me. My pattern of relationships was very much defined by people pleasing and trying to be liked and loved. I feel really bad for my younger self, but clearly that’s all I knew. Fortunately, I landed on an healing journey. I learned how to take care of myself and I learned how to establish healthy boundaries. It wasn’t a quick or easy process. There was a big investment of time, money, blood, sweat and tears. But everything in my life improved, and now I’m living the dream with financial security and the love of my life, 10+ years now. Fewf. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO
Blessings,
Chatigirl
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