Ten toes in the circle…

I’ll help anyone who is willing to help themselves. 

But don’t expect me to bust my ass while you sit on yours.

— Unknown

This one’s gotten under my skin over the years. I’ve tended to pull more than my fair share of the weight and at times I’ve felt resentful. I’ve learned, however, that this is “my stuff” and something I have to rectify for myself. My favourite therapist says it’s about 100 % and 100% in relationships, for example. Both parties need to have “ten toes in the circle,” meaning each person has to be equally committed. So if one puts in more effort than the other, there is a problematic imbalance. So, I’ve had to learn to not over give, and allow for others to come forward and contribute as well. I’ve mostly learned the lesson, as my precious relationship is very mutual, warm and fuzzy ;) Hugs. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl