If you were judged, choose understanding.
If you were rejected, choose acceptance.
If you were shamed, choose compassion.
Be the person you needed when you were hurting, not the person who hurt you.
Vow to be better than what broke you — to heal instead of becoming bitter so you can act from your heart, not your pain.
— Unknown
A wise coach of mine talks about minimizing the level of guilt one needs to carry. He said “As I’ve gotten older I realize I’d rather be honest and honourable, so I can live with a clear conscience. For example, I will not cheat on taxes, as this frees me from worrying about audits and repercussions. When I look back, I realize my relationships were somewhat messy, particularly around endings. I didn’t know how to communicate my needs and desires, so I would sort of emotionally drift away, without a proper heads up to my partner. I didn’t cross the line with anyone else, so my conscience is clear there, but I’ve certainly felt bad in hindsight. I vowed to never let that happen again and basically went to relationship school (workshops and seminars that teach great relationship/communication skills). I ended up finding my perfect partner and we both know how to communicate our needs, wants, struggles and then make kind and respectful requests. Yay. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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