Healing comes from taking responsibility: to realize that it is you - and no one else - that creates your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions.
- Peter Shepherd (Psychotherapist, Founder of Trans4mind.com, author of Transforming the Mind and Daring to be yourself. Interestingly, Shepherd abandoned civil engineering studies in order to pursue a path of greater enlightenment).
My favourite therapist would echo these sentiments. He says our parents did the best they could and now it’s up to us. We can be upset about our upbringing and complain about what we didn’t get, but no one’s coming at this point. We have to pick up where our parents left off and find our own way to a great life, with all the things we want and need. I think we have high hopes for our primary love relationship as our big support system, but my various coaches seem to agree that until we’re on solid ground with ourselves first, we’ll likely face issues in our love lives. Those pesky unmet needs tend to land on the new love and our expectations of our partner are probably too high. Just sayin’ :) Hugs. xo
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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