Stay in the moment (and seek additional reprieve?)…

The practice of staying present will heal you. 

Obsessing about how the future will turn out creates anxiety.

Replaying broken scenarios from the past causes anger or sadness.

Stay here, in this moment. 

— S. McNutt (8X best-selling author, podcaster, public speaker and course creator. McNutt believes healing is the key to success, and that self-awareness unlocks freedom). 

Great reminder. I like the way McNutt phrases this message. Personally, I keep hammering away at forgiveness with myself (I forgive you, and I forgive me for any pain that was caused. I release you and I release me). I still seem to need regular coaching/energy work to relieve the emotional pain. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

Family of origin impact…

A therapist said if you self isolate when overwhelmed you probably had to solve a lot of your problems alone as a child.

— Unknown 

There’s that. My favourite therapist also targeted the people pleasing, which he said was my way of trying to be noticed and matter. Parents do what they are capable of doing, and then it’s up to us to grow up, so to speak. As an adult, I’ve always wanted a level of intimacy that was missing from my family of origin. I finally found what I was looking for, but not until I solidified my emotional foundation. Therapy taught me boundaries, relationship and conflict resolution skills, and gave me a pretty decent level of self-acceptance and security. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

Types of intelligence…

One problem with the way the educational system is set up is that it only recognizes a certain type of intelligence, and it’s incredibly restrictive— very, very restrictive. There’s so many types of intelligence, and people who would be at their best outside of that structure get lost.

— Bruce Springsteen 

I envy people who are drawn specifically to law, medicine, construction, accounting, or what have you. I have a number of interests, and so my career path has been anything but straight forward. I did manage to find a position that suits quite well, but I continue to pursue an entrepreneurial endeavour that will hopefully be more fulfilling. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

A small talk goes a long way…

A small talk can fix a lot.

— Unknown 

I’ve learned this the hard way. In my family of origin there was a lot of yelling (and some violence unfortunately), but very little resolution. So I pretty much avoided anger (which terrified me for a long time) and conflict. Thanks to an ex of mine, I ended up in therapy, and began working on conflict resolution and healthier communication skills. It’s not easy broaching difficult topics with people, but it gets easier and it’s so worth it. Having said that, some relationships simply don’t line up. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl

If you thank yourself…

If you thank your mind, it will relax.

If you than your heart, it will open.

It you thank your past, it will integrate.

If you thank your symptoms, they will heal. 

If you thank your shadow, it will vanish.

If you thank your life, it will transform.

If you thank yourself, the light will dawn.

— Matt Kahn (Spiritual teacher, speaker, YouTube sensation and author of Whatever Arises, Love That, Everything Is Here to Help You, and The Universe Always Has a Plan. Kahn has 21+ million YouTube channel views and was named one of the top 100 Spiritually Influential Living People by Watkins’s magazine, along with the Dalia Lama and Eckhart Tolle. Followers find Kahn’s messages both healing and humorous). 

I’ve been trying this the last couple of days! So far, the exercise feels very kind, supportive and forgiving. I think there’s something there. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

Give up the idea that you will be perfect…

Boundaries With Yourself

Look like

* Not buying things you can’t afford

* Taking regular breaks during the day

* Keeping the promises you make to yourself

* Ending a toxic relationship

* Creating a healthy sleep routine

* Taking time to honour your feelings and process your thoughts

* Talking to yourself like you would talk to a loved one

* Giving up the idea that you will be perfect

— IneffableLiving.com

The stand out item for me is “Ending a toxic relationship.” It took me a really long time to respect my personal deal breakers (such as repetitive lateness, messiness, ongoing discord) and walk away from dynamics that made me feel anxious and generally uncomfortable. When I made the decision to wait it out, I found a much more compatible fit for my personality, in both love and friendship. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

Your home is an extension of your energy field…

This is why practices like cleaning your home, 

rearranging furniture, 

organizing your closet

and getting rid of objects that are cluttering your space

can have a profound impact on your mind, body, and spirit.

— Maryam Hasnaa (Priestess, Intuitive, Energy Healer and Medicine Woman, with a focus on high sensitivity individuals, who experience a heightened nervous system).

I joke about having a touch of OCD, because I’m always cleaning, tidying and de-cluttering. I’m also suuuper sensitive to sounds, smells, taste and other people’s energy. It all makes sense now. For me, Craniosacral Therapy really helps calm the nervous system. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl