Replacing "I'm sorry's" with "I thank you"...

Lately I've been replacing my "I'm sorry's" with ''Thank you's," like instead of "sorry for being such a mess" I'll say "thank you for loving me and caring about me unconditionally" and it's not only shifted the way I think and feel about myself but also improved my relationships with others who now get to receive my gratitude instead of negativity.

- Unknown

Well, I just love that. What a great approach to try. Just sayin' :) Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl

No amount of guilt or anxiety...

When thinking about life remember this; no amount of guilt can solve the past and no amount of anxiety can change the future.

- it'salovelylife.com

So where does that leave us? Livin' in the moment I suppose, which they say is the most fulfilling way to go. Turning the brain off takes some practice and commitment though. Just sayin' :)

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Life is tough...

Life is tough darlin', but so are you.

- savannahsevens.com

Getting to the other side of a very tough time is surprisingly rewarding and confidence inspiring. Just sayin' :) Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl

So fucking "fine"...

Everybody is always so fucking "fine." Sometimes, we are hurt and bruised and nearly completely shattered and this, sir, is not what one calls fine.

Awe, I hear that. Big hugs peeps. xo

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Anxiety management...

* Doing breathing exercises every day will help to prevent panic attacks and relieve them when they

happen.

* Regular exercise, especially aerobic exercise, will help you manage stress levels, release tension,       improve mood and boost confidence. 

* Eat regular meals to stabilize blood sugar levels.

* Avoid caffeine, alcohol and smoking - these can make panic attacks worse.

* Panic support groups. Knowing that other people are experiencing the same feelings can be reassuring.

* Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) can identify and change the negative thought patterns that can feed panic attacks.

- nhs.uk (NHS Choices website, "Your health, your choices")

Stress is a part of life, that's for sure. If nothing else, I do keep hearing about the role of slow, deep, rythmic breathing in calming the body and mind. Can't hurt anyway. Just sayin' :) Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

No guilt...

You have to learn to say no without feeling guilty. Setting boundaries is healthy. You need to learn to respect and take care of yourself.

- lessonslearnedinlife.com

My favourite therapist says that when we do things out of duty and obligation, we're not being true to ourselves and others, and in the end we won't be able to keep it up forever. Letting people down doesn't feel great, but it sure gets tiring doing things we really don't wanna do. Just sayin' :)

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Let it be...

A secret to happiness is letting every situation be what it is, instead of what you think it should be.

- Unknown

When we're in our rational minds, absolutely. I think the challenge is when we're moody and we're not exactly sure why. Just sayin' ;)

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Go as planned?...

My entire life can be summed up in one sentence... 'Well that didn't fucking go as planned.'

- Unknown

Ha ha ha. Well, as the saying goes, 'life is what happens while we're making plans!' Just sayin' ;)

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Balance...

Some days you eat salads and go to the gym, some days you eat cupcakes and refuse to put on pants. It's called balance.

Ha ha ha. Just sayin' ;)

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Fear power...

Deep within you are powers you'll never know you have - until they're unlocked by fear.

- Jeff Wise, "Stealth Super-Powers" (Psychology Today Magazing)

Okay! Good to know... because feeling fear can be very stressful. Just sayin' ;)

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Wish list...

Ok, so I continue to be amazed at how much of my wish list comes true (although not necessarily in a timely fashion, ha ha). Note to self: remember to focus on the wish list, instead of worrying about the how, why, what, when. Just sayin' :)

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Cultivating your circle...

The older I get, the more I realize the value of privacy, of cultivating your circle and only letting certain people in. You can be open, honest, and real while still understanding not everyone deserves a seat at the table of your life.

- Unknown

Add to that thought....

The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life will become.

- Unknown

I think we owe it to ourselves to locate the drain on our batteries. Ongoing negativity and anger are two things that take me out at the knees and so I must say no, without apology or guilt. Just sayin' :) Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Cultivating intuition...

The Law of Attraction, Power of Positive Thinking and Intention are all extremely powerful tools to help you attract and manifest your highest potential. However, they are all secondary to intuition. Unless you are walking on the path that your soul knows it must walk, none of these tools will work properly for you. If you're living a fear based life and believe that your dreams aren't real, then the Law of Attraction will give you unrealized dreams and the Power of Positive thinking and Intention will turn into hopeless wishing because you're taking action based on fear. Once you cross over and say "Yes!" to what your soul knows it should be doing, only then will these tools be of any use to you! We are not five sensory beings; we have 6 senses, intuition being the sixth and most important sense. Once you learn to trust and take action only on your own guidance the world will bow at your feet."

- Jackson Kiddard (author, inspirational speaker and founder of TheDailyLove.com)

Makes it sound easy, but I suspect "going inward" and trusting our gut takes calm, focus, commitment and discipline. Just sayin' :) Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Accept, then act...

Accept - then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work within it, not against it... This will miraculously transform your whole life.

- Eckhart Tolle

Something better usually comes along anyway! Just sayin' ;)

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Ah ha moments...

Most people have "ah ha" moments. I have "oh for fuck's sake, fuck this shit" moments.

- Unknown.

Ha ha ha. Just sayin' ;)

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Unstoppable

She was unstoppable, not because she did not have failures or doubts, but because she continued on despite them.

- Beau Taplin

Life requires much perseverance, that's for sure. Just sayin' :) Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl

I tried...

I tried
I tried
I tried
I tried
I tried
I tried
I'm tired.

Ha ha ha. But seriously, life can be bloody tiring, can't it? Just sayin' ;) Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Carrying on...

Sometimes, carrying on, just carrying on, is the superhuman achievement.

- Albert Camus, philosopher, author, journalist who tended to challenge the status quo and delve deeply into individual freedom. Camus won the Nobel Prize in literature in 1957.

Ah, the human condition. A lot of ups, downs and everything in between. Just sayin' :) Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Tell yourself...

We believe what we tell ourselves.

Everything will work out.
Things will get better.
You are important.
You are worthy of great things.
You are loveable.
The time is now.
This too, shall pass.
You can be who you really are.
The best is yet to come.
You are strong.
You can do this.

- Doe Zantamata, happinessinyourlife.com (author of Happiness in Your Life, Happy By Nature and Old Children, A book for Adults).

We may be underestimating the power and comfort of encouraging sentiments. Just sayin' :) Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Low-maintenance friends...

Shout out to low maintenance friends, the ones you don't talk to for months because you're both living life but when you meet up, there's nothing but love.

- Unknown

It's just too stressful and unpleasant tip-toeing around the expectations of others. Dog house, cold shoulder, passive-aggressive come to mind.  Just sayin' :) Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Being pleasant...

A simple smile, or 'good moring' could change someone's entire mood today. Practice being pleasant.

- Unknown

On the other hand...

I'm having one of those days where my middle finger is answering every question.

- Unknown

Some days we just can't be "up." Just sayin' ;)

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Best years of your life...

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you can control your own destiny.

- Albert Ellis, founder of cognitive-behavioural therapies and considered the second most influential psychotherapist in history (Sigmund Freud was ranked third). Psychology Today noted 'No individual - not even Freud himself - has had a greater impact on modern psychotherapy.'

Just sayin' :) Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Bad mood...

I say 'I don't know' to everything when I'm in a bad mood.

- Unknown

Hey, we all have our bad moods once in a while. No choice but to let them pass, I suppose. Just sayin' ;)

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Look beyond...

Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections.

- Unknown

I have to admit, I struggle with this one. Even though I know perfection is fleeting at best, I love it when it happens; that perfectly cooked egg, a spotless house, pulling off a successful surprise party, a beautiful bouquet of flowers, a gorgeous sunset. Just sayin' ;)

Blessings,

Chatgirl