Ah, how to have those difficult conversations? When we just know the other person is not going to like what we have to say. When we know we're headed for back lash. This has been a source of stress over the years and my default used to be avoidance of conflict. It took much education/therapy/practice to learn how to "address" issues and still, I will only put out this kind of effort, energy and emotion for important people and situations. What I've been lucky enough to learn is this. Present just the facts and our truth, with as little emotion as possible, so the other person can hear what we're saying. This way we can avoid stepping on troublesome triggers that cause big and scary reactions from others. Just the facts and speaking about how we feel puts the other person more at ease because we're not blaming or accusing. We're simply speaking about our experience and/or making requests for a dynamic or behaviour change. Just sayin'
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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