Silver linings...

11 Things I Learned From Being Cheated On

by Garrett Paknis, mindbodygreen.com

1. Nothing is ever personal (even when it is) - people cheat for a number of reasons. Cheaters and liars in general, are often lost within their own kingdom of pain and we have to recognize it's not us, it's them.
2. Misery loves misery (and love loves love) - how can someone treat us with the respect and honesty we deserve when they can't take an honest look in the mirror. An infidelity can be a blessing because it alerts us to the fact that we need to seek a relationship that we deserve, not one that reinforces our insecurities.
3. Self-worth can never be taken away - we have to understand our personal worth and respect ourselves first and foremost... which is a huge gift.
4. Honesty really is the best policy - the truth holds our power to access happiness and strength.
5. Prioritize protection - be safe!
6. Nothing is worth avoiding - when something feels off, we shouldn't be shy to search for what is causing the discomfort. We can ask ourselves what we want, how we feel and be true to ourselves.
7. Forgive - even when we don't think someone who hurt us "deserves" to be forgiven, holding resentment only hurts us at the end of the day.
8. Always accept apologies - this allows room for closure.
9. Things fall apart for other things to be created :)
10. The most important relationship in your lives isn't what we think - no one will ever complete us. The only way we can feel complete is by honouring ourselves and building a new romantic relationship on strength rather than codependency.
11. Pain can actually make us happier in the end - strength is a form of resilience and something we gain from undergoing pain. We can let our struggles guide us to greater discovery within. When we approach our darkest moments, we allow ourselves to heal from what isn't meant for us. We are the person who needs to meet our needs and if we have a solid foundation in who we are, we will always be able to weather any storm. Feeling safe comes from standing on our own two feet.

Well said! ;) ... and definitely the positive side of a break up, if we let it be..... Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl