I think there’s a point in your healing journey where you stop trying to convince other people to do the right thing you just observe their choices, understand their character, and decide what you’re going to allow in your life.
— Brianna Wiest
Therapy and life coaching taught me about “allowing” certain treatment. My tolerance for questionable behavior was far too high, thanks to an abusive upbringing that lacked healthy communication and self-care boundaries. In truth, I found it hard to throw the baby out with the bath water with some long standing relationships. But I also know that I’ve gained a drama-free zone, which has greatly reduced my stress level. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Never discredit your gut instinct. You are not paranoid. Your body can pick up on bad vibrations. If something deep inside of you says something is not right about a person or situation, trust it.
— Unknown
I keep reminding myself to trust gut instinct over the brain, particularly when there’s a lack of information. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
I don’t wanna “win” the argument or feel “right”. That’s not the point nor my objective. I wanna feel like we’ve come to an understanding on the issue at hand. I want both of us to walk away feeling heard and understood.
It’s not a competition.
— Unknown
In my younger days, I often reacted defensively when questioned or challenged. My father ruled with an iron fist and there wasn’t a whole lot of room for two way discussion. In fact, his favourite saying was “You’re completely missing the point”, which created a hot button around my intelligence being insulted. Fortunately, with counselling, I was able to resolve the old baggage and live in the moment in my relationships and at work. I’m able to remain open, with curiosity and the intent to learn. This has worked wonders in all aspects of my life. And I continue to pick up new and helpful tips in life. It’s pretty cool. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Emotionally immature people will not respond well to your boundaries. Don’t be surprised when they block you, give you the silent treatment, create drama or have a tantrum. Your job is to maintain your boundaries despite the response from the people who don’t want you to have boundaries.
Why can’t I get over it or just let it go?
Responses of the nervous system happen below the level of conscious awareness, in the survival brain. Becoming anxious, triggered or shutting down isn’t something you’re choosing - it happens automatically and instantly. If something feels familiar to a previous trauma, your physiology will move you into a state of fight, flight or freeze. You can’t talk yourself out of it or be more positive/capable/strong to change it. It’s not your fault.
— jessicamaguire.com (@repairing__the_nervous_system)
I ended up seeing a Body Talk/Craniosacral Therapist as a last resort, after a life long battle with stomach aches and bloating. The traditional health care system had no solution. Nothing really showed up in allergy tests (one $400 blood test showed a clean sheet, except a minimal response to alfalfa sprouts, when I know my body is not in love with dairy, wheat or red meat). A trusted naturopath suggested the eat for your blood type book, and I’ve found their diet guide to be pretty bang on (lots of fruit, veggies, nuts, salmon, minimal dairy/wheat, red meat. So there you go!). In my first session with the Body Talk practitioner, she diagnosed me with “Anxious Tummy” which is essentially a central nervous system response to stress. Body Talk/Craniosacral therapy, along with the blood type type diet have been the solution for me, both physically and emotionally. My Craniosacral coach explains how this particular therapy calms the nervous system and provides a bit more space and time around triggering events, which was a happy, additional benefit to solving my digestive issues. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
