Stuck….

I’m stuck between 

“I need to save money” and 

“You only live once”

— Unknown 

Lol. I can relate! I’m leaning toward saving money though. When you get dangerously close to personal bankruptcy, spending money doesn’t hold quite the same appeal. I experienced that proverbial rainy day during the 2008 financial crisis, which lasted years, and ended up needing far more than I could have imagined. I do spend money on warm vacations because I hate winter. And I do spend money on dinner out, which I consider micro vacations, especially through the week. But other than that, I love seeing my bank account grow. It makes me feel safe knowing I can take care of myself if the other shoe drops again. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

To acknowledge is to release…

Accepting the emotion you’re feeling gives the power back to you.

To avoid is to amplify, and to acknowledge is to release.

— J. Mike Fields (Professional life coach, speaker, mental wellness advocate. Fields uses techniques such as cognitive reorganization, narrative reframing, values clarification, and mindfulness to guide people to greater contentment)

My favourite therapist says the way to the other side is through some muck unfortunately (I’m paraphrasing of course). The family of origin stuff can loom pretty large because we’re too young to be able to understand or process our feelings. Sorting through this stuff is gruelling work, but the rewards are huge, in my experience. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

 

Stay in the moment (and seek additional reprieve?)…

The practice of staying present will heal you. 

Obsessing about how the future will turn out creates anxiety.

Replaying broken scenarios from the past causes anger or sadness.

Stay here, in this moment. 

— S. McNutt (8X best-selling author, podcaster, public speaker and course creator. McNutt believes healing is the key to success, and that self-awareness unlocks freedom). 

Great reminder. I like the way McNutt phrases this message. Personally, I keep hammering away at forgiveness with myself (I forgive you, and I forgive me for any pain that was caused. I release you and I release me). I still seem to need regular coaching/energy work to relieve the emotional pain. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

Family of origin impact…

A therapist said if you self isolate when overwhelmed you probably had to solve a lot of your problems alone as a child.

— Unknown 

There’s that. My favourite therapist also targeted the people pleasing, which he said was my way of trying to be noticed and matter. Parents do what they are capable of doing, and then it’s up to us to grow up, so to speak. As an adult, I’ve always wanted a level of intimacy that was missing from my family of origin. I finally found what I was looking for, but not until I solidified my emotional foundation. Therapy taught me boundaries, relationship and conflict resolution skills, and gave me a pretty decent level of self-acceptance and security. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

Types of intelligence…

One problem with the way the educational system is set up is that it only recognizes a certain type of intelligence, and it’s incredibly restrictive— very, very restrictive. There’s so many types of intelligence, and people who would be at their best outside of that structure get lost.

— Bruce Springsteen 

I envy people who are drawn specifically to law, medicine, construction, accounting, or what have you. I have a number of interests, and so my career path has been anything but straight forward. I did manage to find a position that suits quite well, but I continue to pursue an entrepreneurial endeavour that will hopefully be more fulfilling. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

A small talk goes a long way…

A small talk can fix a lot.

— Unknown 

I’ve learned this the hard way. In my family of origin there was a lot of yelling (and some violence unfortunately), but very little resolution. So I pretty much avoided anger (which terrified me for a long time) and conflict. Thanks to an ex of mine, I ended up in therapy, and began working on conflict resolution and healthier communication skills. It’s not easy broaching difficult topics with people, but it gets easier and it’s so worth it. Having said that, some relationships simply don’t line up. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl

If you thank yourself…

If you thank your mind, it will relax.

If you than your heart, it will open.

It you thank your past, it will integrate.

If you thank your symptoms, they will heal. 

If you thank your shadow, it will vanish.

If you thank your life, it will transform.

If you thank yourself, the light will dawn.

— Matt Kahn (Spiritual teacher, speaker, YouTube sensation and author of Whatever Arises, Love That, Everything Is Here to Help You, and The Universe Always Has a Plan. Kahn has 21+ million YouTube channel views and was named one of the top 100 Spiritually Influential Living People by Watkins’s magazine, along with the Dalia Lama and Eckhart Tolle. Followers find Kahn’s messages both healing and humorous). 

I’ve been trying this the last couple of days! So far, the exercise feels very kind, supportive and forgiving. I think there’s something there. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl