The consequence of not feeling…

Emotions are energy and energy cannot be destroyed. Everything you have avoided feeling becomes energy stored in your energy field as it has nowhere else to go. This is where a lot of disease comes from in our physical body, all this stress and negative energy living within us. Repressed emotions often come to us as triggers, an outburst because it can no longer stay contained. It’s like a cry for help from your body, it needs your attention to heal and release everything suppressed. Whatever emotions you don’t allow yourself to face become stored in the etheric body. This then blocks the regular flow of energy into your chakras. Feeling temporary emotional pain wont kill you like the mind believes and will pass if you let it. You can choose to run from your pain for the rest of your life, letting it weigh you down or you can feel the emotions, release them and take back control of your body. 

— @highpriestesshealing11 (Spiritual life coaching) 

I’m a believer, and every healing profession I’ve pursued has worked wonders; traditional talk therapy, life coaching, group therapy, EMDR, breath work, A Course In Miracles, BodyTalk (along with Naturopathics, acupuncture, Prolotherapy etc.). Most recently, I’ve been working with a Craniosacral Therapist (who is also a life coach) and this work is the most calming and promising yet. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chagtgirl 

What is love?…

The Ego asked:

‘What is love? It’s too big a word for me. I don’t understand it at times.” 

The Soul replied:

‘If you understand Kindness,

If you understand Respect,

If you understand Acceptance,

Then you will understand Love.’

— Richa Rana (Creator of The Dignified Soul. Rana, an engineer by education, worked in the banking-corporate world for a decade. After “relentless nudging” by her soul, she began an inward journey and discovered a passion for observing the world around her, finding wisdom and insights, writing, and seeking the deeper meaning of life). 

I can relate. I’ve worked in business development for thirty years, and although I’ve carved out quite a lucrative position, there is a grind to it. So, I dabble on the side, in search of a path that offers deeper meaning and fulfilment. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

Don’t own what others think of you…

How others see us doesn’t represent the truth of who we are. 

It only represents the truth of how they see us. Nothing more.

Don’t own what others think of you.That’s for them to own.

Your job is to work at loving yourself, as you are.

That includes your crooked smile and atypical fashion sense and bizarre family history and even your penchant for garden gnomes. Whatever it is that makes you you is something to celebrate, not be ashamed of or feel less than on account of.

You are right, as you are. 

We all have our stories. We have our pain. I’ve come to believe the only way to have a chance at healing our wounds is to be honest about them. Brave and willing enough to face them. The healing part may be out of our hands, but the brave and honest part is certainly within our power. And it changes everything.

For me, love supports it all. ALL OF IT. Love is the base note for everything good—compassion, forgiveness, kindness, authenticity—and choices made from love can only serve ourselves and our world positively. 

Love’s got the power. 

— Scott Stabile (Writer & Breathwork Guide. Stabile’s mission is to spread as much love as possible. His parents were shot to death when he was 14 and his brother OD’d on heroin 9 years later. He grew up around a lot of addiction, dysfunction, tragedy and shame over being gay, which he hid for some time).

I don’t know about you, but I’m pretty inspired by Scott Stabile. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl  

Strong enough to choose yourself…

The amount of strength it takes to choose to be alone 

instead of poorly surrounded, is extremely underrated.

If you were strong enough to choose yourself, 

I honor you.

— Xavier Dagba (Trauma-informed, transformational life coach, speaker, blogger. Dagba believes in illuminating and integrating one’s “shadow self” in order to shed personal limitations and embrace repressed powers. He feels this work allows one to live from the heart, rather than being held back by old wounds). 

My favourite therapist targets defining moments from childhood because (and I’m paraphrasing of course) he says we have limited, to no capacity, to understand or deal with our feelings and reactions back then. As an adult, we can go back in time, learn how to express ourselves, and process the traumatic event(s) in a healthy way. It’s not easy work, but for me there was always a light at the end of the tunnel, and life has continued to get better and better. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

 

Cord cutting…

Say out loud:

“I (your name) release (their name) from my life.

May they no longer have access to me in any realm, in any form.

I am removed from them physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally and energetically.

I forgive them and myself for any harm done, as that is the past and so are they.

I am free from this attachment.

I am free from any toxicity.

I am free.”

— Unknown

I’ve been working with this lately, and I find the exercise calming and helpful. Avoiding the who’s wrong and who’s right argument feels kind, and empowering, somehow. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Chatgirl 

 

Everybody is a genius…

Everybody is a genius. 

But if you judge and fish by it’s ability to climb a tree, 

it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.

— Albert Einstein 

Well, that’s a genius statement. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

Learning how to love…

I heard someone say “just because you love me doesn’t mean I feel loved by you.”

Wow.

— Unknown 

I agree. Wow. My favourite therapist says many of us grow up not actually knowing what love is. We know what love is not, however. So understanding love, and how to love, has everything to do with our upbringing and the role modelling, or lack there of, from our parents. Fortunately, we can learn these skills later in life. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl