The first step of healing (and manifesting a beautiful relationship)…

Be the love you never received.

Be the acknowledgement you never got.

Be the listener you always needed.

Look at the younger versions of yourself within you 

and give yourself what it is you always needed.

That is the first step of healing.

If you want others to see you, you must see yourself.

— Vienna Pharaon (One of New York’s most sought after relationship therapists. She is the founder and owner of group practice Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy)

I ended up in intensive therapy to save my marriage. Although the marriage wasn’t salvageable (we had been forewarned about 50-50 odds), I embraced individual counselling, and never looked back. A few key take aways after 20+ yrs of healing, and relationship skills work; quite a high degree of compatibility seems necessary, success is way more likely if each partner deals with their own individual baggage, and good/healthy relationship skills are a bigger advantage than one may think (For example, I learned how to cultivate an inviting, empathetic, and compassionate communication style… for the most part, Lol). Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl  

The cost of negative energies…

I am free from any negative energies that I have subconsciously or consciously attracted through the world around me - physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually. I revoke any energetic permission I have given in the ethereal or physical realms that don’t align with my highest path. I have divine protection from all negativity attempting to attach to my body and energy.

— Unknown 

I found Body Talk and Craniosacral Therapies by accident. I’ve suffered stomach aches and digestive issues pretty much my whole life and I’d run through the traditional medical system AND alternative therapies (including the Eat for Your Blood Type diet plan, which did help somewhat) and nothing seemed to solve the underlying issue. Luckily, an acquaintance told me about Body Talk and this has been a game changer, both physically and mentally. I paid to solve my stomach issues, and ended up with ongoing mental health support. I was very quickly diagnosed with “anxious tummy.” For me, stress lands on my gut/digestion. I learned about the impact that energies/negativity can have on us. We’ll find some people energizing and healing, while others will leave us with a bad taste in our mouth, so to speak. There have been soooo many benefits to Body Talk/Craniosacral therapy. Topping the list are; greater awareness of negative energies, better boundaries, weight loss, no more stomach aches, my body can handle more food and a greater variety of foods (a little bit of wheat and dairy are now ok, which used to kill me). Fewf! Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

10 ways to love…

Listen without interrupting

Share without pretending

Speak without accusing

Enjoy without complaint 

Give without sparing

Trust without wavering

Pray without ceasing

Forgive without punishing

Answer without arguing

Promise without forgetting 

— Unknown 

I know I must work on my listening, both personally and professionally! There’s a tendency to want to help, and solve, am I right? Just sayin’ ;) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

Healthy relationships…

Let’s not forget it’s you AND me vs the problem…

NOT you VS me. 

— Steve Maraboli

Yes! Thank you for this great reminder. (I wish I’d known this in my twenties and thirties). Just sayin’ :) hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

This isn’t therapy (and it will still help our mental health)…

- Reading for pleasure, instead of “fixing ourselves”

- Muting, unfollowing, taking a social media break

- Making, building, creating something tangible

- Mindfully brushing our teeth, showering, eating - focusing on basics

- Crying, releasing stress hormones through tears

- Writing, journaling, giving thoughts a place to exist (outside of our head)

- Listening to music that makes us feel something

- Stretching, going for a walk, moving body for joy purposes

- Intentionally doing nothing. No distractions, allowing for boredom

- Talking, deeply connecting with a loved one

— @holisticallygrace

Two stand out for me; crying to release cortisol (I released some Cortisol yesterday, Lol. Just needed to take the lid of the proverbial boiling pot for a moment), and deeply connecting with a loved one (a couple of treasured friends have moved away and I am missing them, deeply. Must re-connect). Just sayin’ :) Hugs and hang in there… (It’s tough out there, isn’t it?) XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

Emotional healing and the central nervous system…

Once you heal trauma, you heal the nervous system. 

When you heal the nervous system, you heal the emotional body.  

When you heal the emotional body, you heal the psychic (empathic) body.

When you heal the psychic body, you heal vibration. 

Once the vibration is healed, realities change. 

— Unknown 

I’ve been working on trauma healing for a while now (because I grew up with a lot of fear, given a very Al Pacino in Godfather Part 2 kind of father, yikes!), and I definitely see results every time I have a “Craniosacral Therapy” session. (This treatment is said to encourage the body’s natural healing process through the use of gentle touch and very light pressure. The Craniosacral system includes our brain, spinal cord, nerves and the cerebrospinal fluild surrounding them). Above all, I seem to come away with bit of extra breathing/thinking room, which is quite calming. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Show up for yourself in ways that feel good to you…

If you can’t meditate, pause before every sip of coffee.

If you can’t pray, simply say ‘thank you’ before every meal.  

If you can’t manifest, enjoy what’s already yours.

And if you can’t journal, talk to yourself in the car.

There is no spirituality rule book.

Just show up for yourself in ways that feel good to you. 

— Vex King (Author of Good Vibes Good Life, with two Sunday Times bestsellers. King is an acclaimed mind coach who rose to fame on Instagram)

This feels very kind to self, allowing for rest, and acceptance for where life is at today. I think it may also offer one time to contemplate what’s most important. Maybe ambition/money are less important than we may think? Great relationships keep showing up as the biggest predictor of happiness and well being. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl