Excellence or well being?

Excellence is not being the best;
it is doing your best.

— Unknown

We are most certainly compared to others throughout our lives; our parents compare us to our siblings, our teachers compare us to the rest of the class, we are compared to our colleagues. We are essentially taught to judge ourselves, and too harshly I’m sure. My favourite therapist says that as we age, we need to become the adult in our lives and create a safer emotional world. That means being kind and compassionate to self, and knowing when we need nurturing rather than excelling. I’m thinking sick day, Lol. Just sayin’ :) Hugs. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Feeling off?...

If something feels off, it is.

— Unknown

My favourite therapist says that we should quiet our minds and feel in our bodies instead. He says this is key, particularly when we don’t have enough information to make decisions. If we feel tension in our bodies, then something is amiss. Just sayin’ :) Hugs. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Learn to rest...

If you get tired, learn to rest not to quit.

— Unknown

My favourite therapist says making real change is not for the faint of heart. He says it takes much willingness, commitment and perseverance in overcoming the inevitable obstacles, pain and resistance. Just sayin’ :) Hugs. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl

It’s about effort...

It’s not about perfect. It’s about effort. And when you bring that effort, every single day, that’s where transformation happens. That’s how change occurs.

— Unknown

Note to self for sure. I have a tendency to focus on perfect! Just sayin’ ;) Hugs. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl

What you give power to...

It all begins and ends in your mind.
What you give power to has power over you, if you allow it.

— Unknown

In the Abundance Book, John Randolph Price says “Your outer world of form and experience is a reflection of your inner world of thoughts and feelings. As above, so below. As within, so without. That is the law.” The Abundance Book offers a really interesting, and potentially game-changing way of thinking about money. Just sayin’ :) Hugs. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Coping mechanisms...

Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction.
Break the habit.
Talk about your joys.

— Unknown

Apparently there are four typical and automatic coping responses; fight (argue), flight (hide), freeze (disengage/paralysis) and appease (complain to others). If our “alarm system” is set to “high alert” it will go off even in relatively harmless situations; being at a party with people we don’t know, speaking in front of people, having to answer to your boss/parents. Gratitude and talking about our joys is certainly highly recommended. If this isn’t working, WebMD offers 10 expert backed suggestions to help relax and regain control of the mind:

1. Anxiety is a future-oriented state of mind, so stay in the present.
2. Relabel what’s happening - when fight or flight kicks in, tell yourself this is temporary and there is nothing I need to do in this moment.
3. Fact-check your thoughts - do not allow yourself to fixate on worst-case scenarios. Try saying “I’m nervous, but I’m prepared.” Or “Some things will go well and some may not.”
4. Breathe in and out - deep breathing will help to calm you down and re-centre your brain.
5. Follow the 3-3-3- rule - name three things you see, name three sounds you see, move three parts of your body. This will bring you back to the present moment.
6. Just do something - stand up, take a walk, throw away a piece of trash. Interrupt your train of thought to regain control of your thoughts.
7. Stand up straight - this will send a message to the body that it’s back in control.
8. Stay away from sugar - eating to much sugar can worsen anxious feelings. Drink a glass of water or eat protein. This slow energy will allow your body to recover.
9. Ask for a second opinion - call or text a family member or friend. Saying something out loud or writing fears down on paper can help bring clarity.
10. Watch a funny video - laughing is a great prescription for an anxious mind. Research has shown that laughing can help lower anxiety as much as exercise can.

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Strive for progress...

Strive for progress, not perfection.

— Unknown

According to Anxiety Canada, it is “worthwhile considering loosening those standards a bit to ease the stress and anxiety from trying so hard to be perfect.” Okay, note to self... because I do tend to have kind of crazy standards myself actually. Being a Type A, calming down seems to take some effort at times, Lol. (Yoga helps a lot, and some form of coaching/life coaching, writing stuff down etc). Just sayin’ ;) Hugs. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl