Getting to the root cause?...

Beneath every behaviour there is a feeling.
And beneath every feeling there is a need.
And when we meet that need rather than focus on the behavior,
we begin to deal with the cause,
not the symptom.

— Unknown

My favourite therapist conducts amazing relationship workshops. I can’t tell you the number of critical life skills I’ve come away with. I sure never learned any of that at home, at high school, at college, or anywhere else. One of the big nuggets was the concept that there are layers of emotions and if we peel away, we can get to the heart of the matter. For example, beneath anger is pain/need. So a man screaming and yelling is sort of the equivalent of a baby crying. According to my favourite therapist it all begins with how we’re feeling. Just sayin’ :) Hugs XO

Blessings

Chatgirl