Kindness is like snow - it beautifies everything it covers.
— Khalil Gibran
I’ve been tested of late. Somewhat nasty gossip has circled back to me and I temporarily let it get under my skin. Thank goodness I revisited earlier work on forgiveness and I’ve arrived at a feel good course of action. I choose to forgive those who need to vent and sit with their troubled feelings. I also choose to make allowances, rather than judge in return. Lastly, I am practicing owning ALL of my own stuff. If I’m frustrated with something in my world, I choose to make adjustments so that I arrive at a more suitable outcome. For example, if I feel that I’ve given more generously to loved ones in the past, then I choose to suggest and arrange mutual gift giving, such as buying each other something cool on a fun shopping spree. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Friday, August 31, 2018
Thursday, August 30, 2018
I will simply breathe...
I will breathe.
I will think of solutions.
I will not let my worry control me.
I will not let my stress level break me.
I will simply breathe.
And it will be okay.
Because I don’t quit.
— Shayne McClendon (Indie author most recognized for her premiere novel The Barter System and whose “words always feel just right.”)
Life is a ride and the highs are so worth it. I have to keep telling myself this because I get scared, I get tired, I get frustrated and some days I hide out. Then a sparking, perfect day happens and I absolutely love being alive. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
I will think of solutions.
I will not let my worry control me.
I will not let my stress level break me.
I will simply breathe.
And it will be okay.
Because I don’t quit.
— Shayne McClendon (Indie author most recognized for her premiere novel The Barter System and whose “words always feel just right.”)
Life is a ride and the highs are so worth it. I have to keep telling myself this because I get scared, I get tired, I get frustrated and some days I hide out. Then a sparking, perfect day happens and I absolutely love being alive. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Wednesday, August 29, 2018
Let it...
Sometimes there is nothing you can do but let it rain and wait for the sunshine.
— Unknown
My favourite therapist told me many moons ago that I want life to be “sunny and sunnier.” Needless to say, I don’t like it when things go “wrong.” I actually do believe in silver linings and I’ve certainly gained perspective looking back. I’m just not great in the scarier moments. I think I struggle to manage and control what's happening. Of course this is silly because we can only control so much. I’ll keep working on a mentality shift because stress is a killer, isn’t it?! Just sayin’ ;) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
— Unknown
My favourite therapist told me many moons ago that I want life to be “sunny and sunnier.” Needless to say, I don’t like it when things go “wrong.” I actually do believe in silver linings and I’ve certainly gained perspective looking back. I’m just not great in the scarier moments. I think I struggle to manage and control what's happening. Of course this is silly because we can only control so much. I’ll keep working on a mentality shift because stress is a killer, isn’t it?! Just sayin’ ;) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Monday, August 27, 2018
Planting the seed...
You cannot force someone to comprehend a message they are not ready to receive.
Still, you must never underestimate the power of planting a seed.
— Unknown
Sometimes it feels like nothing is happening and it’s hard to not lose hope. I have to remind myself often that things take time (and patience, which is not my strong suit ;)). Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Still, you must never underestimate the power of planting a seed.
— Unknown
Sometimes it feels like nothing is happening and it’s hard to not lose hope. I have to remind myself often that things take time (and patience, which is not my strong suit ;)). Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Sunday, August 26, 2018
Praise your enemies?...
Praising and blessing dissolves all negativity, so praise and bless your enemies. If you curse your enemies, the curse will come back to harm you. If you praise and bless them, you will dissolve all negativity and discord, and the love of the praising and blessing will return to you. As you praise and bless, you will feel yourself shift into a new frequency with the feedback of good feelings.
— The Secret
If I’m in a great place, I can wish all people well, including those who may have contributed to some of my personal difficulties. If I’m stressed or worried, maybe not so much. I do know that I am responsible for my choices and I have everything to do with some of my unpleasant endings (i.e. staying in a bad job too long and being absent from my past relationship without actually leaving). I want to work on this because I believe we get back what we give, both good and bad. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
— The Secret
If I’m in a great place, I can wish all people well, including those who may have contributed to some of my personal difficulties. If I’m stressed or worried, maybe not so much. I do know that I am responsible for my choices and I have everything to do with some of my unpleasant endings (i.e. staying in a bad job too long and being absent from my past relationship without actually leaving). I want to work on this because I believe we get back what we give, both good and bad. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Wednesday, August 22, 2018
Gratitude...
Gratitude is a vaccine, an antitoxin, and an antiseptic.
— Henry Jewett (Author and influential British Protestant preacher, who has been called “the greatest preacher in the English speaking world”).
A list of 31 benefits was compiled by aggregating the results of more than 40 research studies on gratitude. In a nutshell, gratitude is supposed to make us happier, by improving our health, relationships, emotional world, personality and career. More specifically, gratitude is strongly correlated with optimism and vitality/energy level, which is said to reduce feelings of envy, make our memories happier, allow us to experience good feelings and help us bounce back from stress. A common suggestion is to spend just five minutes a day writing out what we’re grateful for... and then watch the results. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
— Henry Jewett (Author and influential British Protestant preacher, who has been called “the greatest preacher in the English speaking world”).
A list of 31 benefits was compiled by aggregating the results of more than 40 research studies on gratitude. In a nutshell, gratitude is supposed to make us happier, by improving our health, relationships, emotional world, personality and career. More specifically, gratitude is strongly correlated with optimism and vitality/energy level, which is said to reduce feelings of envy, make our memories happier, allow us to experience good feelings and help us bounce back from stress. A common suggestion is to spend just five minutes a day writing out what we’re grateful for... and then watch the results. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Tuesday, August 21, 2018
Rock bottom as a solid foundation...
Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.
— J.K. Rowling (British novelist, philanthropist, film and TV producer and screenwriter best known for the Harry Potter series. Rowling is the ninth-best-selling fiction author of all time. She was working as a researcher and bilingual secretary for Amnesty International when she conceived the idea for Happy Potter. The seven years following, her mother died, she gave birth to her first child and suffered a divorce. She was in “relative poverty” and living on state benefits until 1997, when the first novel in the series was published. Rowling lost her billionaire status after giving away much of her earnings to charity, but remains one of the wealthiest people in the world. She was named the “Most Influential Woman in Britain” by leading magazine editors).
A wonderful rags to riches story and very impressive that Rowling has given so much to charity. How inspiring. I wonder what we could achieve if we set our hearts and minds to it. One thing is certain. If we lose everything for some reason, we know it is possible to rebuild and be the better for it. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
— J.K. Rowling (British novelist, philanthropist, film and TV producer and screenwriter best known for the Harry Potter series. Rowling is the ninth-best-selling fiction author of all time. She was working as a researcher and bilingual secretary for Amnesty International when she conceived the idea for Happy Potter. The seven years following, her mother died, she gave birth to her first child and suffered a divorce. She was in “relative poverty” and living on state benefits until 1997, when the first novel in the series was published. Rowling lost her billionaire status after giving away much of her earnings to charity, but remains one of the wealthiest people in the world. She was named the “Most Influential Woman in Britain” by leading magazine editors).
A wonderful rags to riches story and very impressive that Rowling has given so much to charity. How inspiring. I wonder what we could achieve if we set our hearts and minds to it. One thing is certain. If we lose everything for some reason, we know it is possible to rebuild and be the better for it. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Monday, August 20, 2018
Silver lining...
If some situation occurs that affects your state of joy, repeat to yourself, “All good is coming from this situation.” And it will. Learn from each experience. You will find after experiencing a challenging situation, your level of joy will be higher than it has ever been before.
— The Secret
Personally, I think The Secret is onto something. You have your typical ups and downs in life, but when you get truly blind-sided, it is beyond scary and shocking. I’ve experienced two such moments. I was blown away enough at one point that I was afraid to be alone, which is very out of character for me. I couldn’t wrap my head around what had happened. The second time I was blown away, I was privately in a state of shock for about three months (I was in bed every night reading self-help books!). Although my two shocking experiences were a horror at the time, they set me up for the life and love of my dreams. In order to move forward, I had to accept my hand in each of these situations. In the first, I needed to leave a bad job and was stalling for far too long. In the second, I was again delaying leaving the wrong relationship. They say if we don’t make our own decisions, they will be made for us. I now pay attention and carefully manage all aspects of my life. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
— The Secret
Personally, I think The Secret is onto something. You have your typical ups and downs in life, but when you get truly blind-sided, it is beyond scary and shocking. I’ve experienced two such moments. I was blown away enough at one point that I was afraid to be alone, which is very out of character for me. I couldn’t wrap my head around what had happened. The second time I was blown away, I was privately in a state of shock for about three months (I was in bed every night reading self-help books!). Although my two shocking experiences were a horror at the time, they set me up for the life and love of my dreams. In order to move forward, I had to accept my hand in each of these situations. In the first, I needed to leave a bad job and was stalling for far too long. In the second, I was again delaying leaving the wrong relationship. They say if we don’t make our own decisions, they will be made for us. I now pay attention and carefully manage all aspects of my life. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Saturday, August 18, 2018
Trust yourself...
Think for yourself. Trust your own intuition. Another’s mind isn’t walking your journey, you are.
— Unknown
When I was younger, I wasn’t sure how to distinguish fear from gut instinct. I wasn’t sure if I should “feel the fear and do it anyway” or if I was picking up on an important red flag. My favourite therapist says that gut instinct literally comes from our body and the feelings in our stomach. I’m not sure if it just takes practice tuning into our bodies, or if we have to unload some of our baggage as well. (My favourite therapist also says that our baggage can silently run our lives and ruin a lot of relationships if left unchecked). It’s probably a combination of both. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
— Unknown
When I was younger, I wasn’t sure how to distinguish fear from gut instinct. I wasn’t sure if I should “feel the fear and do it anyway” or if I was picking up on an important red flag. My favourite therapist says that gut instinct literally comes from our body and the feelings in our stomach. I’m not sure if it just takes practice tuning into our bodies, or if we have to unload some of our baggage as well. (My favourite therapist also says that our baggage can silently run our lives and ruin a lot of relationships if left unchecked). It’s probably a combination of both. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Friday, August 17, 2018
The best teachers...
A hungry stomach, an empty pocket and a broken heart can teach the best lessons of life.
— Unknown
When I was younger, I didn’t budget because I wanted to enjoy life and feel abundant. I decided not to worry about money and live with the credit card balance each month (within reason). My father was a teacher and my mother never worked, so I heard “we can’t afford it” waaaaay too much for my liking. Then that old rainy day (which I NEVER thought would happen to me) actually came. In my line of work there are typically a million jobs and I’ve always had my pick. Not this time. Jobs disappeared after the 2008 financial crisis and I learned about saving and living below my means. Interestingly enough, I now feel more well-off than ever and I am still enjoying life and spending when I feel like it, for the most part. I just think about where I want the money to go and I save ahead of time for bigger purchases like vacations. Duh. (Ps. stay tuned for more on the broken heart lesson). Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
— Unknown
When I was younger, I didn’t budget because I wanted to enjoy life and feel abundant. I decided not to worry about money and live with the credit card balance each month (within reason). My father was a teacher and my mother never worked, so I heard “we can’t afford it” waaaaay too much for my liking. Then that old rainy day (which I NEVER thought would happen to me) actually came. In my line of work there are typically a million jobs and I’ve always had my pick. Not this time. Jobs disappeared after the 2008 financial crisis and I learned about saving and living below my means. Interestingly enough, I now feel more well-off than ever and I am still enjoying life and spending when I feel like it, for the most part. I just think about where I want the money to go and I save ahead of time for bigger purchases like vacations. Duh. (Ps. stay tuned for more on the broken heart lesson). Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Thursday, August 16, 2018
Overnight sensation?...
Success isn’t overnight. It’s when everyday you get a little better than the day before. It all adds up.
— Dwayne Johnson (American actor, producer and semi-professional wrestler. Johnson won a national championship at the University of Miami and played for the Calgary Stampeders. He is regarded as one of the greatest professional wrestlers of all time. His autobiography The Rock Says debuted at No. 1 on the New York Times Best Seller list in 2000).
My biggest successes have come waaaaay later than I would have wanted or imagined. My highschool basketball coach told me that perseverance was my biggest strength and it turns out he was right. It’s sweet, however long it takes to impress ourselves. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
— Dwayne Johnson (American actor, producer and semi-professional wrestler. Johnson won a national championship at the University of Miami and played for the Calgary Stampeders. He is regarded as one of the greatest professional wrestlers of all time. His autobiography The Rock Says debuted at No. 1 on the New York Times Best Seller list in 2000).
My biggest successes have come waaaaay later than I would have wanted or imagined. My highschool basketball coach told me that perseverance was my biggest strength and it turns out he was right. It’s sweet, however long it takes to impress ourselves. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Wednesday, August 15, 2018
Our limitations...
If someone tells you “you can’t” they’re showing you their limits. Not yours!
— wordsworthbillions
It’s interesting how we react to other people’s stories and goals. We seem to immediately think about how we would feel in that situation. I wonder why we do that? Other people have their own path and who’s to say we need to weigh in on their goals or decisions? I’ve noticed that when I go to a wedding, I have a huge reaction, depending on where I’m at in my life. When I was getting divorced, I wanted to avoid weddings (awe, but makes sense). When I was in the wrong relationship, weddings made me cry (also awe, but makes sense). Now that I’m with my perfect partner and love of my life, weddings make me cry with joy and think about the vows I’m going to write (awe, much better!). Maybe we can’t help but be the reference point for others’ stories, even though we should just allow them the space to have their own thoughts and experiences without our feelings landing on them. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
— wordsworthbillions
It’s interesting how we react to other people’s stories and goals. We seem to immediately think about how we would feel in that situation. I wonder why we do that? Other people have their own path and who’s to say we need to weigh in on their goals or decisions? I’ve noticed that when I go to a wedding, I have a huge reaction, depending on where I’m at in my life. When I was getting divorced, I wanted to avoid weddings (awe, but makes sense). When I was in the wrong relationship, weddings made me cry (also awe, but makes sense). Now that I’m with my perfect partner and love of my life, weddings make me cry with joy and think about the vows I’m going to write (awe, much better!). Maybe we can’t help but be the reference point for others’ stories, even though we should just allow them the space to have their own thoughts and experiences without our feelings landing on them. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Tuesday, August 14, 2018
Opinions...
In order to insult me, I must first value your opinion...
Nice try though.
— Unknown
Fact or opinion? Understandable observation, or nasty gossip? I’ve been more bothered by unkind gossip than I’d like to admit. I figured something out lately though, and I am soooo relieved. I realize that if I am not in a relationship with someone, I don’t need to worry about what they think of me. Nor do I want to hear what such people have to say about me. How freeing. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Nice try though.
— Unknown
Fact or opinion? Understandable observation, or nasty gossip? I’ve been more bothered by unkind gossip than I’d like to admit. I figured something out lately though, and I am soooo relieved. I realize that if I am not in a relationship with someone, I don’t need to worry about what they think of me. Nor do I want to hear what such people have to say about me. How freeing. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Sunday, August 12, 2018
Just do it...
Just do it.
You force yourself to get up.
You put one foot in front of the other, and God damn it, you refuse to let it get to you.
You fight. You cry. You curse. Then you go about the business of living. That’s how I’ve done it.
There’s no other way.
— Elizabeth Taylor (British born American actress, businesswoman and humanitarian. She was named the seventh greatest female screen legend by American Film Institute in 1999).
I found a great book called Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway. Changed my life. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
You force yourself to get up.
You put one foot in front of the other, and God damn it, you refuse to let it get to you.
You fight. You cry. You curse. Then you go about the business of living. That’s how I’ve done it.
There’s no other way.
— Elizabeth Taylor (British born American actress, businesswoman and humanitarian. She was named the seventh greatest female screen legend by American Film Institute in 1999).
I found a great book called Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway. Changed my life. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Friday, August 10, 2018
The most important investment...
The most important investment you can make is in yourself.
— Warren Buffett (American business magnate, investor, speaker and philanthropist, who is considered one of the most successful investors in the world. He has a net worth of $84 billion as of June 3 2018, which makes him the third wealthiest person in the world. Warren Buffet was born August 30th 1930 in Nebraska and holds a Bachelor of Science in Business Administration and a Master of Science in Economics. He also attended the New York Institute of Finance. Interestingly, he was rejected by Harvard Business School).
It took me a while to figure this one out. I worked pretty hard through highschool, farted around at college for two years and then got serious in my final two years of University, earning a BA in psychology. I’ve always had a decent work ethic and achieved some status in my jobs, however, I’ve always had too many interests to focus on being #1. In school I was prepared to study enough to get A’s and B’s, but I wasn’t ready to give up my social time in order to achieve that coveted 4.0. Then I had a couple of failed marriages and yet another broken relationship that left me reeling. I had been avoiding making the decision to end something that wasn’t working, which left me open to a shitty break up, with an embarassing betrayal. Sometimes it takes a kick in the a_-_-! to face truths and make smarter decisions. Well, I finally got it and made sweeping changes in my life; I quit eating sugar, which I never thought I’d be able to pull off, I decided to work much harder at my career, I started writing this blog to focus on investing in myself (improving myself) and I learned how to attract the right relationship. Game changers all of them. I really am living the dream now. I feel this is due to a daily commitment to my personal/professional/financial/relationship/lifestyle goals. I love waking up in the morning and dreaming about the exciting things I want to manifest (like more warm vacations, more time for fun and frolic, the perfect home with lots of space, beauty and a zen feel) . Just sayin’ :). Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
— Warren Buffett (American business magnate, investor, speaker and philanthropist, who is considered one of the most successful investors in the world. He has a net worth of $84 billion as of June 3 2018, which makes him the third wealthiest person in the world. Warren Buffet was born August 30th 1930 in Nebraska and holds a Bachelor of Science in Business Administration and a Master of Science in Economics. He also attended the New York Institute of Finance. Interestingly, he was rejected by Harvard Business School).
It took me a while to figure this one out. I worked pretty hard through highschool, farted around at college for two years and then got serious in my final two years of University, earning a BA in psychology. I’ve always had a decent work ethic and achieved some status in my jobs, however, I’ve always had too many interests to focus on being #1. In school I was prepared to study enough to get A’s and B’s, but I wasn’t ready to give up my social time in order to achieve that coveted 4.0. Then I had a couple of failed marriages and yet another broken relationship that left me reeling. I had been avoiding making the decision to end something that wasn’t working, which left me open to a shitty break up, with an embarassing betrayal. Sometimes it takes a kick in the a_-_-! to face truths and make smarter decisions. Well, I finally got it and made sweeping changes in my life; I quit eating sugar, which I never thought I’d be able to pull off, I decided to work much harder at my career, I started writing this blog to focus on investing in myself (improving myself) and I learned how to attract the right relationship. Game changers all of them. I really am living the dream now. I feel this is due to a daily commitment to my personal/professional/financial/relationship/lifestyle goals. I love waking up in the morning and dreaming about the exciting things I want to manifest (like more warm vacations, more time for fun and frolic, the perfect home with lots of space, beauty and a zen feel) . Just sayin’ :). Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Wednesday, August 8, 2018
What has power over us?...
It all begins and ends in your mind. What you give power to has power over you, if you allow it.
— Unknown
Thing is, some things are unconscious, or they’re so ingrained that we don’t even know they have power over us. My favourite therapist contends that our early childhood experiences often set us up for dysfunctional relationship patterns, and if left unchecked, we face much drama and heartache. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
— Unknown
Thing is, some things are unconscious, or they’re so ingrained that we don’t even know they have power over us. My favourite therapist contends that our early childhood experiences often set us up for dysfunctional relationship patterns, and if left unchecked, we face much drama and heartache. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Tuesday, August 7, 2018
Clearing the path...
Not all storms come to disrupt your life, some come to clear your path.
— Unknown
In my experience, “storms” absolutely cause disruption to the status quo, requiring much patience and calming (at least they do for me, ha ha). On the other hand, surviving the discomfort may also be rewarded by shiny new blessings. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
— Unknown
In my experience, “storms” absolutely cause disruption to the status quo, requiring much patience and calming (at least they do for me, ha ha). On the other hand, surviving the discomfort may also be rewarded by shiny new blessings. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Sunday, August 5, 2018
Laughter...
People who make me laugh until I’m physically in pain are my favourite kind of people.
— Unknown
Stress relief! Just sayin’ ;)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
— Unknown
Stress relief! Just sayin’ ;)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Saturday, August 4, 2018
If it hurts...
When it hurts - observe.
Life is trying to teach you something.
— Anita Krizzan (Author)
My most painful experiences (lessons) resulted in profound, life altering transformation. I can transport myself back to that agony in a nanosecond and rememeber why I’ve made a few critically positive choices (i.e. choosing the right kind of relationship, prioritizing hard work on a daily basis to secure my financial future, taking even better care with my health, writing this blog). Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Life is trying to teach you something.
— Anita Krizzan (Author)
My most painful experiences (lessons) resulted in profound, life altering transformation. I can transport myself back to that agony in a nanosecond and rememeber why I’ve made a few critically positive choices (i.e. choosing the right kind of relationship, prioritizing hard work on a daily basis to secure my financial future, taking even better care with my health, writing this blog). Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Friday, August 3, 2018
Peace and quiet...
I’d rather be alone, than around chaos and confusion.
Silence beats drama any day.
— Unknown
I concur. It took me a long time to realize I could make better choices (i.e. a relationship that is more suited to my temperament, with someone who is calm, considerate, kind, open-minded, thoughtful, etc.). Just sayin’ ;)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Silence beats drama any day.
— Unknown
I concur. It took me a long time to realize I could make better choices (i.e. a relationship that is more suited to my temperament, with someone who is calm, considerate, kind, open-minded, thoughtful, etc.). Just sayin’ ;)
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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