At 70 years old, if I could give my younger self one piece of advice it would be to use the words “fuck off” much more frequently.
— Helen Mirren
Lol. I can relate, particularly at Xmas time when compromise, endurance, and potentially a lot of alcohol and/or sugar, are required ;) Hugs and good luck. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor. It will keep you cramped and insane.
In Navajo culture, rug weavers intentionally create small imperfections in their work, like odd-coloured beads or stray pieces of yarn. This rebellion against unattainable exactitude makes the art more soulful. Relieved of the unrealistic mandate to be flawless, the rug can relax into its beauty.
— excerpt from Rob Brezny, Dec 29th 2022, FreeWill
How beautiful. I’m gonna take the Navajo culture tip to heart because I most definitely suffer a bit of the OCD, perfection thing (anyone who knows me well would agree I’m sure, Lol). Just sayin’ ;) Hugs. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Your hope waters the roots of the flowers that have yet to bloom.
— Unknown
I think I love Disney movies becuase they are chockablock full of hope and inspiration. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs and best of luck for 2023. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
When you least expect it
something amazing will come along.
Something even better than you imagined.
— Unknown
Happy Holiday season. Wishing you the life of your dreams for 2023. Hugs, XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Discussions are always better than arguments because an argument is to find out who is right,
and a discussion is to find out what is right.
— Unknown
I learned about “clearing” from my favourite therapist. He teaches communication skills in his weekend workshops, as the foundation and necessity for a healthy relationship. There’s an exercise where each participant has to approach and invite a conversation with any and all individuals where there is a feeling of discomfort. I was a big chicken in my first workshop and just sat there, trying to be invisible (a strategy I used growing up, Lol, which did not translate well into my later life). Interestingly enough, each person I felt uncomfortable with (there were two or three) actually approached me to clear the air. There were some snap judgements, but as the workshop moves on you begin to understand one another better and you tend to see people differently. It was all very cool and super helpful to my future relationships. Just sayin’ :) Hugs. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
It might pass like a kidney stone, but it will pass.
— Unknown
Lol ;) I must admit, I’m feeling pretty introverted and inward focused at the moment. The death of a parent will do that to a person. Meanwhile, I thought I’d share a little comic relief. Made me giggle. Hugs and best of the season to you. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
I think my biggest take away from therapy (because I’m a sensitive creature who went to the school of hard knocks in my family of origin, which sort of set me up for a big life learning curve) is the importance of having one’s own back. Okay, well, actually there are two big nuggets. The second one is leaning into your feelings. Like really validating your experience and giving yourself permission to be upset, angry and hurt. Of course, at some point we’re supposed to sort it all out (which typically requires professional assistance), find forgiveness and move onward an upward in a healthy and happy way. We shan’t wallow and become bitter angry person, ok? But we shall have our own back, sooth and nurture ourselves back to health. And then find a sense of empowerment and live an eff’ing fantastic life. Am I right? Just sayin’ ‘;) Hugs and best of the season to you. I know Xmas can be really hard. Hang in there. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
