Replace ‘sorry’s’ with ‘thank you’s.’ Instead of ‘sorry I’m late’, try ‘thank you for waiting on me’.
— Alexis Belon (New York based writer, visual artist, vlogger)
I’m working on it ;) Another great example is ‘that’s not in my bugdet right now’ instead of ‘I can’t afford it’. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Tuesday, June 26, 2018
Wednesday, June 20, 2018
Your heart...
Make your heart the most beautiful thing about you.
— Unknown
I love the idea of this. I truly do. We grow up being measured and compared to siblings and peers, and as adults we continnue to be judged by our parents, peers, managers and society in general. It is no surprise that our career (and even romantic) success or lack there of can have a big impact on our self-esteem. I wonder what would happen if we focused more on our relationships and making ourselves and others feel more appreciated and special. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
— Unknown
I love the idea of this. I truly do. We grow up being measured and compared to siblings and peers, and as adults we continnue to be judged by our parents, peers, managers and society in general. It is no surprise that our career (and even romantic) success or lack there of can have a big impact on our self-esteem. I wonder what would happen if we focused more on our relationships and making ourselves and others feel more appreciated and special. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Monday, June 18, 2018
Slowing down...
“Just slow down.
Slow down your speech.
Slow down your breathing.
Slow down your walking.
Slow down your eating.
And let this slower, steadier
pace perfume your mind.
Just slow down...”
— Doko
It’s so easy to ruminate on the past, or worry about the future. They say slowing down and breathing helps us stay in the moment, where life is more manageable. I spend waaaay too much time pre-planning, hoping to avoid set-backs, as though life can somehow be perfect and magical every moment. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Slow down your speech.
Slow down your breathing.
Slow down your walking.
Slow down your eating.
And let this slower, steadier
pace perfume your mind.
Just slow down...”
— Doko
It’s so easy to ruminate on the past, or worry about the future. They say slowing down and breathing helps us stay in the moment, where life is more manageable. I spend waaaay too much time pre-planning, hoping to avoid set-backs, as though life can somehow be perfect and magical every moment. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Saturday, June 16, 2018
The power within...
Every night before you fall asleep, give heartfelt thanks for the wonderful day you just had (no matter what kind of day you had). Think about the next day, and intend that it is going to be wonderful. Intend that it is going to be filled with love and joy. Intend that all good is coming to you and everything is going to flow perfectly, etc. Then when you wake in the morning, BEFORE you get out of bed, again declare your intentions for the day and give deep thanks as though you have received them all. As you do this, you will begin to create your life deliberately, and you will experience firsthand the power that is within you to create the life you want.
— The Secret
Some people pooh pooh this sort of thinking as pie in the sky or downright unrealistic. I figure, what have I got to lose? For me, positivity, faith and hope simply feel better than fear and worry. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
— The Secret
Some people pooh pooh this sort of thinking as pie in the sky or downright unrealistic. I figure, what have I got to lose? For me, positivity, faith and hope simply feel better than fear and worry. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Friday, June 15, 2018
Handling emotional triggers...
How to Handle Emotionally Triggering Situations + People:
1. Remove your attention from the person or situation and focus on your breath.
2. Take a break. Physically leave the situation.
3. Find the humor in the situation.
4. Ask yourself why you’re being triggered.
5. Don’t bypass your feelings, but don’t act them out either. It’s OK to consciously delay experiencing them.
— lonerwolf
First we would need to be aware of and admit that we’re being “triggered.” I think sometimes we get slammed and we’re not sure what’s going down. Hopefully we can regain some sense of awareness sooner than later and sort the whole thing out, rather than blaming others for making us feel yucky. One of my valued coaches says whatever we’re feeling/reacting to is our stuff, plain and simple. If we do some investigative work, odds are good that we can reduce run-away emotions in the future. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
1. Remove your attention from the person or situation and focus on your breath.
2. Take a break. Physically leave the situation.
3. Find the humor in the situation.
4. Ask yourself why you’re being triggered.
5. Don’t bypass your feelings, but don’t act them out either. It’s OK to consciously delay experiencing them.
— lonerwolf
First we would need to be aware of and admit that we’re being “triggered.” I think sometimes we get slammed and we’re not sure what’s going down. Hopefully we can regain some sense of awareness sooner than later and sort the whole thing out, rather than blaming others for making us feel yucky. One of my valued coaches says whatever we’re feeling/reacting to is our stuff, plain and simple. If we do some investigative work, odds are good that we can reduce run-away emotions in the future. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Thursday, June 14, 2018
Within our control?...
Don’t stress about things that you can’t control. Just let it be.
— Unknown
Why is change so challenging? Most changes in my life been very positive actually, but for some reason I still feel quite anxious during the process. It feels kinda like being a passenger in a speeding car. Ekhart Tolle, A New Earth, says “do not resist” because this will intensify and extend the discomfort. Reachout.com advises that we “view change as an opportunity to learn and grow, rather than as a setback, even if you have to fake it til you make it!” and seek out the positive. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
— Unknown
Why is change so challenging? Most changes in my life been very positive actually, but for some reason I still feel quite anxious during the process. It feels kinda like being a passenger in a speeding car. Ekhart Tolle, A New Earth, says “do not resist” because this will intensify and extend the discomfort. Reachout.com advises that we “view change as an opportunity to learn and grow, rather than as a setback, even if you have to fake it til you make it!” and seek out the positive. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Tuesday, June 12, 2018
Probability of change...
Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.
— Unknown
Our personalities are pretty hard-wired, that’s for sure. Time and experience have had an impact on me though, so I know it is possible to learn and grow. We seem to need pretty big motivators and/or consequences to drive our evolution (break up, new love, job loss, death of a loved one). Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
— Unknown
Our personalities are pretty hard-wired, that’s for sure. Time and experience have had an impact on me though, so I know it is possible to learn and grow. We seem to need pretty big motivators and/or consequences to drive our evolution (break up, new love, job loss, death of a loved one). Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Monday, June 11, 2018
Rewiring the brain...
You can “rewire” your brain to be happy by simply recalling 3 things you’re grateful for every day for 21 days.
— thespychmind.com
I need to remember to do this more often, especially when I’m feeling stressed and worried because I know it works! Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
— thespychmind.com
I need to remember to do this more often, especially when I’m feeling stressed and worried because I know it works! Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Sunday, June 10, 2018
Where your power is...
When you can’t control what’s happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what’s happening. That’s where your power is!
— Unknown
Challenge being the key word. Regardless of how much “work” I do on my inner world, I still feel afraid and stressed when something goes “wrong.” I know something positive tends to result, but I’m still working on calm in the moment and focusing on the silver lining. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
— Unknown
Challenge being the key word. Regardless of how much “work” I do on my inner world, I still feel afraid and stressed when something goes “wrong.” I know something positive tends to result, but I’m still working on calm in the moment and focusing on the silver lining. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Saturday, June 9, 2018
De-cluttering...
Clutter is not just physical stuff. It’s old ideas, toxic relationships and bad habits. Clutter is anything that does not support your better self.
— Eleanor Brown (M.A. in literature, American novelist, anthologist, editor, international teacher and speaker. She is the New York Times and international bestselling author of novels The Weird Sisters and Light of Paris).
I’m always curious about what motivates us. What inspires us to get off the couch/Netflix and make life altering changes. They say when someone very important either leaves or enters our lives, we are compelled to make sweeping changes. I have had this very experience and though terrifying and unnerving at the time, I love the outcome. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
— Eleanor Brown (M.A. in literature, American novelist, anthologist, editor, international teacher and speaker. She is the New York Times and international bestselling author of novels The Weird Sisters and Light of Paris).
I’m always curious about what motivates us. What inspires us to get off the couch/Netflix and make life altering changes. They say when someone very important either leaves or enters our lives, we are compelled to make sweeping changes. I have had this very experience and though terrifying and unnerving at the time, I love the outcome. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Thursday, June 7, 2018
Enjoyment...
It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness.
- Charles Spurgeon (Author and Baptist preacher, known for powerful sermons of penetrating thought and precise exposition. His oratory skills held his many, many listeners spellbound).
Great reminder. I guess we need to find a way to enjoy live, whatever our financial scenario. Some of my fondest memories come from a career low. I found myself on the beach at sunset, reading magazines with a picnic and warm breeze on my face. To echo a good friend of mine “I’ll always have the ocean.” Just sayin :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Charles Spurgeon (Author and Baptist preacher, known for powerful sermons of penetrating thought and precise exposition. His oratory skills held his many, many listeners spellbound).
Great reminder. I guess we need to find a way to enjoy live, whatever our financial scenario. Some of my fondest memories come from a career low. I found myself on the beach at sunset, reading magazines with a picnic and warm breeze on my face. To echo a good friend of mine “I’ll always have the ocean.” Just sayin :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Monday, June 4, 2018
Not about us...
Agreement 2:
Don’t take anything personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
- Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
Great reminder. I was kind of disappointed in myself recently because I was bothered by unfriendly gossip I heard about myself. On some level I knew it wasn’t about me because the individuals in question are struggling, but I let it get under my skin. I find I need a lot of soulful reminders in life, Lol. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Don’t take anything personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
- Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
Great reminder. I was kind of disappointed in myself recently because I was bothered by unfriendly gossip I heard about myself. On some level I knew it wasn’t about me because the individuals in question are struggling, but I let it get under my skin. I find I need a lot of soulful reminders in life, Lol. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Saturday, June 2, 2018
What is love?...
What is love?
Love is the
absence of judgment.
- Dalai Lama
Apparently, making allowances for others somehow makes us feel better about ourselves. I’ve tried this out actually and it does feel good to understand and forgive, rather than react defensively. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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