Without rain nothing grows.
Learn to embrace the storms in your life.
— Unknown
I struggle with the “storms” as they’re happening, but I try to remember what Ekhart Tolle says (essentially, “Do not resist”) in A New Earth. He explains that the more we resist, the more pain we cause ourselves. We're supposed to allow and accept what life brings and trust that some good will come of it. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Wednesday, May 30, 2018
Tuesday, May 29, 2018
Priorities...
Instead of “I don’t have time” try saying “It’s not a priority” and see how that feels.
- Unknown
Someone gave me a similar tip. Instead of saying “I can’t afford it” try saying “That’s not in my budget at this time.” Somehow, that feels better. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Unknown
Someone gave me a similar tip. Instead of saying “I can’t afford it” try saying “That’s not in my budget at this time.” Somehow, that feels better. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Sunday, May 27, 2018
Path to happiness...
Taming the mind is the path to happiness.
- The Dalai Lama
There is much consensus on this philosophy, from all walks of life. We’re supposed to replace our worried/stressed out thoughts with ones of hope/faith/what we want. Just saying’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- The Dalai Lama
There is much consensus on this philosophy, from all walks of life. We’re supposed to replace our worried/stressed out thoughts with ones of hope/faith/what we want. Just saying’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Saturday, May 26, 2018
Saving ourselves...
YOUR ATTENTION PLEASE:
No one is coming to save you.
This life of yours is 100%
your responsibility.
- Unknown
I learned about the “victim mentality” a while back and it was most definitely a paradigm shift. Back in those days I was pretty caught up in judgments around my upbringing and I was more easily offended (my feelings still get hurt once in a while, but much less so). I was telling my coach about something upsetting and she said “and you know that’s your stuff, right?” I said “say what?” Our conversation continued and frankly I was confused that this paid coach didn’t seem to have much understanding or compassion. I soon learned and the education paid off, big time. I now engage differently in my life. I don’t know if I can put my finger right on it, but I think it’s something to do with accepting the past, more focus and attention on the present moment and, most importantly, holding myself accountable. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
No one is coming to save you.
This life of yours is 100%
your responsibility.
- Unknown
I learned about the “victim mentality” a while back and it was most definitely a paradigm shift. Back in those days I was pretty caught up in judgments around my upbringing and I was more easily offended (my feelings still get hurt once in a while, but much less so). I was telling my coach about something upsetting and she said “and you know that’s your stuff, right?” I said “say what?” Our conversation continued and frankly I was confused that this paid coach didn’t seem to have much understanding or compassion. I soon learned and the education paid off, big time. I now engage differently in my life. I don’t know if I can put my finger right on it, but I think it’s something to do with accepting the past, more focus and attention on the present moment and, most importantly, holding myself accountable. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Friday, May 25, 2018
Calm part two...
You can’t calm the storm... so stop trying. What you can do is calm yourself. The storm will pass.
- Buddha’s Teachings
Easier said than done sometimes, isn’t it. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Buddha’s Teachings
Easier said than done sometimes, isn’t it. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Thursday, May 24, 2018
Calm...
Calm is a super power.
- TheMindsJournal.com
I’ve been working on a calm default for ages and like getting into shape, saving money or maintaining an orderly home it seems to take much focus and ongoing attention. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- TheMindsJournal.com
I’ve been working on a calm default for ages and like getting into shape, saving money or maintaining an orderly home it seems to take much focus and ongoing attention. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Wednesday, May 23, 2018
Liife’s struggles...
The truth is, you don’t struggle with depression, you struggle with the reality we live in.
- Keanu Reeves
Many wise people say we must manage the struggle in our minds, first and foremost. If we can adjust our expectations/mindset/reactions, we may uncover a new reality. Just sayin’ :) Hug.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Keanu Reeves
Many wise people say we must manage the struggle in our minds, first and foremost. If we can adjust our expectations/mindset/reactions, we may uncover a new reality. Just sayin’ :) Hug.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Tuesday, May 22, 2018
Your own universe...
I really belive in the philosophy that you create your own universe.
- Jim Carrey (Canadian-American actor, comedian, impressionist, screenwriter, producer, painter and winner of two Golden Globes).
May wise people echo this sentiment. Apparently, we have to believe that we can have a bigger impact on our lives. If we do, we can create more of what we want and less of what we don’t want. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Jim Carrey (Canadian-American actor, comedian, impressionist, screenwriter, producer, painter and winner of two Golden Globes).
May wise people echo this sentiment. Apparently, we have to believe that we can have a bigger impact on our lives. If we do, we can create more of what we want and less of what we don’t want. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Monday, May 21, 2018
Cease to react...
If you are willing to look at another person’s behaviour toward you as a reflection of the state of their relationship with themselves rather than a statement about your value as a person, then you will, over a period of time cease to react at all.
- Yogi Bhajan (A yogi spiritual teacher and entrepreneur who introduced Kundalini Yoga to the US. Bhajan was founder and director of 3HO (Healthy, Happy, Holy Organization), with over 300 centers in 35 countries).
In my experience, this takes practice and perhaps some professional assistance. The problem is, our “triggers” can have very, very deep roots from our upbringing and experiences to date. For example, people who have been cheated on, often struggle to trust in their next relationship. The whiplash of post traumatic stress can take a while to recover from. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Yogi Bhajan (A yogi spiritual teacher and entrepreneur who introduced Kundalini Yoga to the US. Bhajan was founder and director of 3HO (Healthy, Happy, Holy Organization), with over 300 centers in 35 countries).
In my experience, this takes practice and perhaps some professional assistance. The problem is, our “triggers” can have very, very deep roots from our upbringing and experiences to date. For example, people who have been cheated on, often struggle to trust in their next relationship. The whiplash of post traumatic stress can take a while to recover from. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Friday, May 18, 2018
Your happiness...
Don’t ever feel bad for making a decision that upsets other people. You are not responsible for their happiness. You are responsible for your happiness.
- Isaiah Hankel (a Ph.D. in Anatomy and Cell Biology and internationally recognized Fortune 500 consultant. Hankel says if you feel stuck in your career, make a change and know that experimentation is the best teacher. He says “nothing you do matters until you know where you’re going. Find your focus and happiness and success will follow.”)
This is great career advice. I struggle with putting myself first on a more personal level. I’d love to dig in a bit more and see what Dr Hankel says regarding family and friends because in my experience there is a risk of fall-out with loved ones. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Isaiah Hankel (a Ph.D. in Anatomy and Cell Biology and internationally recognized Fortune 500 consultant. Hankel says if you feel stuck in your career, make a change and know that experimentation is the best teacher. He says “nothing you do matters until you know where you’re going. Find your focus and happiness and success will follow.”)
This is great career advice. I struggle with putting myself first on a more personal level. I’d love to dig in a bit more and see what Dr Hankel says regarding family and friends because in my experience there is a risk of fall-out with loved ones. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Wednesday, May 16, 2018
You are you...
Nobody is superior, nobody is inferior, but nobody is equal either.
People are simply unique, incomparable.
You are you, I am I.
- Osho (an Indian godman and public speaker, whose teachings emphasized the importance of awareness, love, celebration, courage, creativity and humour - qualities that he viewed as being suppressed by adherence to static belief systems, religious tradition and socialization).
We are critiqued and compared to others from such a young age and I guess we continue to do so, unless we re-think our intentions. We can’t be someone else, given our genetics, upbringing, and life experiences. All we can do is be the best version of ourselves. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
People are simply unique, incomparable.
You are you, I am I.
- Osho (an Indian godman and public speaker, whose teachings emphasized the importance of awareness, love, celebration, courage, creativity and humour - qualities that he viewed as being suppressed by adherence to static belief systems, religious tradition and socialization).
We are critiqued and compared to others from such a young age and I guess we continue to do so, unless we re-think our intentions. We can’t be someone else, given our genetics, upbringing, and life experiences. All we can do is be the best version of ourselves. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Tuesday, May 15, 2018
Our minds...
It is possible to choose peace over worry.
- Unknown
They say our mind believes whatever we tell it, so we should be aware of what’s going on up there ;) The good news is, we’re supposed to be able to re-program our belief systems and set new and potentially exciting “intentions.” Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Unknown
They say our mind believes whatever we tell it, so we should be aware of what’s going on up there ;) The good news is, we’re supposed to be able to re-program our belief systems and set new and potentially exciting “intentions.” Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Monday, May 14, 2018
Experience...
Experience is the hardest kind of teacher. It gives you the test first and the lesson afterward.
- Oscar Wild
It’s hard to look back on some of our “mistakes”; the wrong relationships, something we shouldn’t have said, something we should have said, allowing ourselves to be influenced against our better judgement, on and on. They say forgiving ourselves is even more important than forgiving others. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Oscar Wild
It’s hard to look back on some of our “mistakes”; the wrong relationships, something we shouldn’t have said, something we should have said, allowing ourselves to be influenced against our better judgement, on and on. They say forgiving ourselves is even more important than forgiving others. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Saturday, May 12, 2018
You are creating...
You are creating your life from within, and everything you experience on the outside is of your own creation. You may have created some things unconsciously, but still you created them. Whe you can take responsibility for all that is around you, not blaming yourself or anyone else, but undertstanding that somehow or another you created it, then, and only then, can you set yourself free. You will know that if you created it, you have the power to change it and create what you want.
- The Secret (Best-selling 2006 self-help book by Rhonda Byrne, based on the pseudoscientific “law of attraction” which claims that thoughts can change the world directly. The book has sold 20 million copies worldwide and has been translated into 50 languages).
One of my mentors taught me about the “victim mentality” and how to change this limiting mindset. I found the paradigm shift a process. I’m still working on it. Just sayin ;) Hugs. xo
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- The Secret (Best-selling 2006 self-help book by Rhonda Byrne, based on the pseudoscientific “law of attraction” which claims that thoughts can change the world directly. The book has sold 20 million copies worldwide and has been translated into 50 languages).
One of my mentors taught me about the “victim mentality” and how to change this limiting mindset. I found the paradigm shift a process. I’m still working on it. Just sayin ;) Hugs. xo
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Friday, May 11, 2018
The power of emotion...
The best revenge is no revenge...
Just forget they exist.
- Unknown
Ha ha. If we’re talking road rage, for sure. On the other hand, my favourite therapist says we should mine all of our feelings for a deeper awareness of ourselves and take appropriate action where needed. Apparently, our reactions are ours to own and they’re usually telling us something meaningful, like draw better boundaries or perhaps spend less time with people who bring us down. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Just forget they exist.
- Unknown
Ha ha. If we’re talking road rage, for sure. On the other hand, my favourite therapist says we should mine all of our feelings for a deeper awareness of ourselves and take appropriate action where needed. Apparently, our reactions are ours to own and they’re usually telling us something meaningful, like draw better boundaries or perhaps spend less time with people who bring us down. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Thursday, May 10, 2018
Our legacy...
My favourite therapist says “We cannot change our legacy. We can’t change who our parents are, how we grew up and where we grew up.” The Serenity Prayer comes to mind:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And the wisdom to know the difference.
Courage to change the things I can;
And the wisdom to know the difference.
Written by Reinhold Niebuhr, American theologian, used widely in sermons as early as 1934, published in 1951 and popularized by Alcoholics Anonymous and other twelve-step programs.
Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Monday, May 7, 2018
Marriage is a verb...
Marriage is not a noun; it’s a verb. It isn’t something you get. It’s something you do. It’s the way you love your partner every day.
- Barbara De Angelis (Ph.D in psychology, American relationship consultant, relationship and personal growth advisor, spiritual teacher. De Angelis has written fourteen best-selling books).
I learned a huge lesson from my past relationships. Jamming the old square peg into a round hole does not a happy relationship make. We can’t change who we are, so finding a partner who fits naturally into our daily world is pretty much essential. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Barbara De Angelis (Ph.D in psychology, American relationship consultant, relationship and personal growth advisor, spiritual teacher. De Angelis has written fourteen best-selling books).
I learned a huge lesson from my past relationships. Jamming the old square peg into a round hole does not a happy relationship make. We can’t change who we are, so finding a partner who fits naturally into our daily world is pretty much essential. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Friday, May 4, 2018
Your daily routine...
You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.
- Unknown
They say diets don’t work for this exact reason. Maybe we need a very compelling reason to change our daily routine. For me, it was a bad break up. I just knew I didn’t want to go through something like that ever again. So I committed fully to my life, by setting the following goals; achieve a meaningful result at work every day, quit eating sugar (because it’s suuuper addictive and if I eat a treat, I find myself wanting one every day) and I learned to say no. Most importantly, I realized that I’d rather be alone forever than be with the “wrong” person. A great coach advised me to make a list for my next relationship, clearly outlining the kind of life I want to live and how I want to feel in my perfect relationship. No settling. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Unknown
They say diets don’t work for this exact reason. Maybe we need a very compelling reason to change our daily routine. For me, it was a bad break up. I just knew I didn’t want to go through something like that ever again. So I committed fully to my life, by setting the following goals; achieve a meaningful result at work every day, quit eating sugar (because it’s suuuper addictive and if I eat a treat, I find myself wanting one every day) and I learned to say no. Most importantly, I realized that I’d rather be alone forever than be with the “wrong” person. A great coach advised me to make a list for my next relationship, clearly outlining the kind of life I want to live and how I want to feel in my perfect relationship. No settling. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Thursday, May 3, 2018
The mind...
The soul usually knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.
- Unknown
This is a running theme across many disciplines. The mind loves to sit in fear and doubt, which is quite anxiety causing. I’m amazed and often frustrated with the worrisome thoughts in my mind because I know I am well rewarded when I keep the faith. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Unknown
This is a running theme across many disciplines. The mind loves to sit in fear and doubt, which is quite anxiety causing. I’m amazed and often frustrated with the worrisome thoughts in my mind because I know I am well rewarded when I keep the faith. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Tuesday, May 1, 2018
Go with the flow?
Only dead fish go with the flow.
- Unknown
Ha ha ha. Seriously though, I think there’s a time and place for surrending to “what is” and there are also times to surrender to our inner voice. Boy, I had to learn this one the hard way. My favourite therapist talks about “having our own back.” Sometimes that means saying no to important people. We have to decide what we really need in the moment, for our well-being. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
- Unknown
Ha ha ha. Seriously though, I think there’s a time and place for surrending to “what is” and there are also times to surrender to our inner voice. Boy, I had to learn this one the hard way. My favourite therapist talks about “having our own back.” Sometimes that means saying no to important people. We have to decide what we really need in the moment, for our well-being. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.
Blessings,
Chatgirl
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