You cannot heal what you cannot feel…

I sat with my anger and asked why it kept showing up. 

It said, “Because you’ve been hurt, and no one listened.”

I sat with my sadness and asked why it never left.

It said, “Because I’m the love and care you never received.”

I sat with my fear and asked why it controlled me. 

It said, “Because I’m the part of you that’s still waiting to feel safe.”

Then I realized these feelings weren’t my enemies. 

They were wounds, asking to be seen.

My favourite therapist says “You cannot feel what you deny. And you cannot heal what you cannot feel.”

So, in other words, a bit of emotional excavating is necessary, if we want to heal from old wounds. I’ve recently embarked on another, year long, intensive group therapy workshop (because I’m grappling with my mother’s death, and the fall out from my troubled family of origin). I continue to be surprised at the depth of hurt feelings from my upbringing. And the catharsis is incredibly freeing, and calming. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl