Some things you won’t get over…

There will be some things you won’t get over.  

Some things that will sting you so hard they will set you back to where you started. And you will hurt and hurt and hurt. But you will also rise from it. You will learn from the past. You will adapt and survive no matter how hard it gets. You will shape your own reality and accept how you should never settle for anything less than you deserve.

— r.m. Drake 

It took me years to get over my last break up. I was soooo mad at myself because in truth I was done a full year before things fell apart. I kind of left the relationship without moving out. I had been moving away on every level, but wasn’t truthful about the extent of things. More importantly, I wasn’t honest with myself. And did I ever pay for that. He ended up falling in love with someone else, in the middle of the relationship (someone from our inner circle) and things ended in a sudden, shocking, and humiliating way. I understand why I delayed. I wasn’t certain that a better relationship was possible, and I was afraid of being single in my city, which is notoriously low on eligible bachelors. But what I learned is that you either have a great match, or you’ll have a challenging relationship that will likely fall apart anyway. Fortunately, I learned my lesson. I decided I’d rather be alone forever than go through another break up and I took the time to understand myself, my needs, my wants, my can’t live with’s and my can’t live withouts. And I realized that each of my past partners actually had serious deal breakers. Duh. So I hadn’t been selective enough in choosing a life partner. I ended up meeting my perfect partner and love of my life within a year. Just sayin’ : ) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl