Let it hurt, then let it heal…

If I could tell 

you anything to save you the time and the lessons in this life, I would tell you to never let anything that happens to you turn you bitter. Don’t let the pain of something that was out of your hands turn you cold, love. Stay soft, as hard as that is sometimes, try. Try with all of your heart to stay tender. I know there’s a lot of things that hurt, take us to our knees and threaten our hearts with a stone cold grudge. Let it go. You can’t change it, but you can choose to not let it change you. Don’t let the pain define you. You are bigger than that. I hope you know. You are never how someone makes you feel. Let it hurt, then let it heal. But don’t linger there. 

Remember who you are and rise. 

—Stephanie B. Henry 

My favourite therapist says we can’t feel what we deny. And we cannot heal what we cannot feel. It’s a bit counter-intuitive because no one really wants to go back and relive crappy, possibly traumatic, experiences. But, these damaging experiences are said to wreak havoc on our lives and relationships, so there’s real upside in offloading some of the old baggage. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl