Fall in love with your life…

Fall in love with your life. 

Wake up early, buy your favourite coffee, go for walks, eat good food, wear what makes you feel confident, and listen to your favourite music. 

Purposefully create these small moments that make you fall in love with your life. 

— Unknown 

Small moments got me through the worst of times; divorce, job loss, having to move. While unemployed (due to the 2008 financial crisis) I was still able to get out of bed and enjoy going for coffee, which made life feel somewhat normal. And in better times, my morning coffee has led to a new best friend, additional new friends and acquaintances, and a beautiful sense of community. This helps makes up for the lack of family connectivity, following my mother’s passing. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

Difficulty being present in the moment?…

We are very good at preparing to live, but not very good at living. We know how to sacrifice ten years for a diploma, and we are willing to work very hard to get a job, a car, a house, and so on. But we have difficulty remembering that we are alive in the present moment, the only moment there is for us to be alive. 

— Thich Nhat Hanh

My favourite therapist diagnosed me with a few things; 1) father issues, which means relationship issues 2) a broken compass because I wasn’t in touch with my feelings and needs 3) love ability issue due to neglect and a lack of positive conditioning. Above all, he told me that I wanted life to be “sunny and sunnier”. Many years of therapy, relationship courses, and self directed study later, I’ve come a long way. But I think I still want life to be sunny and sunnier, Lol ;) I’ll continue to work on accepting life as it comes. On this first day of January 2025 I’m thinking I need to focus more on love and the amazing people in my life. Ambition is great and all, but connections are better for the heart and soul. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

 

Love requires patience…

Love isn’t something natural. Rather it requires discipline, concentration, patience, faith, and the overcoming of narcissism. It isn’t a feeling, it is a practice. 

— Erich Fromm 

Well, certainly when you get past the “honeymoon phase” anyway, Lol. I got married (twice) with rose-tinted glasses, and learned about my deal breakers after the fact. So I would say, carefully choosing the right partner goes a long way in having the capacity for patience, discipline and selflessness. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

Normality is overrated…

Normality is a paved road: It’s comfortable to walk, but no flowers grow.

— Vincent Van Gogh

I don’t know about you, but I really like being comfortable, Lol. In fact, I’ve stayed in relationships far too long, hoping to avoid the break up phase. I hate moving, I hate losing custody of certain friends in the process, and often your pals are hitched, leaving you to find new single folks to hang out with. Having said that, I wouldn’t have met the love of my life (going on 10 yrs now) otherwise. So, as much as comfort and routine rule, there’s something to be said for making a change, and shooting higher. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

Until you accept this…

You Cannot Move On Until You Accept This

• You will not receive closure in every situation, but you can create it for yourself
• Most of what other people do is about them, not you
• Some things cannot be explained
• Some people won’t apologize because they can’t
• You cannot change people, no matter how much you think they need to change. People change themselves

@nedratawwab

I wish I could go back and tell my younger self. I finally figured out my deal breakers, but not until after two divorces, duh. Just sayin’ ;) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

Anytime you’re worried…

This is life changing

Any time that you are worried about something say to your higher self, “Take this, I release this over to you, rearrange it, transform my thoughts, feelings and experience regarding this, it’s yours now, do with it as you see fit, hand it back to me if it’s worth receiving.” After saying and doing that, do you feel lighter? If you do, that’s because you’ve just removed your focus from that which was holding you in a place of discomfort or resistance. You’ve started to come back into alignment with your best self and the solution that you have been looking for.

— S. G. Ruddy 

I need to do this more often. I know when I “surrender” on something I have no control over I feel immensely better. And the solution comes. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

Hold on to hope…

Sometimes, hope is the bravest things we can hold onto. It’s not about ignoring reality but about believing in the good that’s yet to come. It’s recognizing that the pain you feel today is a sign that you’re moving, growing, and still fighting.

True strength isn’t just about holding on; it’s also knowing that you’re strong enough to face tomorrow, no matter what it brings. It’s understanding that every sunrise is a chance to start anew, even when the night has been too long. 

So, hold on to hope. Not because life is easy, but because you are tougher than anything it throws your way. Your heart’s resilience is your superpower. Embrace it, and let hope be the light that guides you through the darkest times. 

— Unknown 

Research has shown that hope has a positive impact on mental health and well-being; reducing stress and anxiety levels, improving coping skills, enhancing motivation, increasing life satisfaction and promoting healing and recovery. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl